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Good evening my friends. I have been struck this week by how so many of us are dragged to our knees with feelings of guilt. Were there things we could or should have done as our loved one struggles and we desperately seek a reason why this has happened to our family.

It's such a hard stage to be trapped in and I feel so sad to feel their pain, big hugs sent out x

Not too bad here - bit off colour but there's so many bugs going round why should I be immune! Boy doing good, had a chat earlier, how I love and miss him........

Think a warming baileys might be on the agenda later x

Happy Friday x

I can't help but think Friday's have lost a bit of it's sparkle since the vigilanties darkened our door last year.

I can't emphasise enough the support this forum offers, really helps me to not feel like I'm constantly drowning whilst fighting fires.

But a chilled weekend in store for us. Wine to come after the smalls bedtime and no doubt some cheese and crackers.

Hi to the even newer new comers. Try and take a deep breath if you can. For those who have been here a while thank you for your constant sharing.

Sending light as always.

Ashes x

This week has been a bit of a strange one. Attended court with my person ready for sentencing, prepared for the worse (solicitor was pretty sure a custodial sentence was coming) then the sheriff wanted more information around my person moving closer to me and what this would mean and another social work assessment (around shpo). The sentencing has been moved to Monday 3rd March (a date I'll find hard to manage) but at least he is back home for now.



I suppose we'll just keep taking everything one day at a time. Hope everyone else is doing well.

Hello friday check in

A baileys sounds lovely.....

My week has been ok. Joined a gym, so went there and did my usual, went to work and line dancing. This weekend I am going to a line dancing party and a meal out on Sunday. Decided I need to try and go out more, socially, not working, lol, so going to the cinema on my own on Sunday. Was supposed to go today but there was no-one to look after my furbabies. So took them for a walk instead. I decided against doing overtime as though i need the money i think i need some self love as well.

Hope everyone has a nice weekend. Xx

Hello Friday check-in,

I am also so sad to see all the newcomers lately. I know how you feel right now. If you've come on here looking for hope like I did, Friday check-in will be the best place to find it.

This week I've received notice that my visiting application has been approved. I'm just waiting for some forms that my husband had to send me in the mail. I'm nervous about visiting a jail as I've never been before. Luckily I was able to ask a few questions which has put my mind a bit at ease. Still, it's hard.

Hi all,

Hope you're all doing well. Life here is "good"? Meaning... I've been panicking recently and been back scrolling after quite a while away.



Had a severe wobble the other night, and then again 2 nights ago, which involved a 3 am phonecall to my son after he finished nights saying I'm so sorry, I've had a dream. Explains dream. Son in question completely flummoxed and half asleep tries to pacify and reassure. Hadn't seen him before he'd been on nights but visor had been round literally that day and found nothing of any concern, left saying, isn't is about time your mam was brave enough to book a holiday! It's all been in my mind (although still terrified to think that)

In other news, as is my usual, I've had a splurge. I've saved for a new kitchen for two years and I may have spent it on something else. We lost our old man, our life saver, our secret teller and our comfort dog back in October and we've been a different lonely family as a result. But we are getting a puppy! Black and Tan Cavalier King Charles who is 5 weeks old today! Who needs a new kitchen anyway, I've decided to buy a piece of joy instead and we can't wait x

Enjoy your puppy So Tired - was never a doggy person til one came into our family, I have him a few times a week and our long walks (in all weathers are amazing) and do me the power of good.

its a time for me to concentrate on him, forget my stresses and just have fun with my loyal, loving, funny & lively ball of fun.

Theres no beating it!!!!!!

let's hear your doggy stories ladies --/////

Hi,

long time lurker i haven't plucked up the courage to start my own post yet. I hope this is ok here. I didn't know where to start.

it has been a rough 5 months (has felt like 5 years) we had the knock at the beginning of September my person is my 17 year old son. He was remanded and was sentenced at youth court in November to a 24 month Detention and training order, 5 years SOR and 5 years SHPO. My person, myself and the youth offending team requested custody to the judge. We was against a community sentence as my person could be miles away from home and lost in a system not getting the psychology work he needs. I also have other children at home so he couldn't return here. Fast forward 2 months post sentencing the training centre he is in doesn't have a program for him after writing to the judge that there was one. Eurgh it's so exhausting fighting everyone for help.

It all came as a huge shock my well rounded outgoing person who was excelling at sixth form and working part time everyone's golden boy. Was easily groomed on an online app by someone probably not from this country and they will get away with doing it to many more.l as they are clever and tech savvy.

I have found so much strength from everyone else's posts and have felt less alone. Iv found so much advice from other people's posts but I feel like I must post now as I feel like a creepy lurker reading and running without a reply.



I just want to say everyone here is an incredible human and I'm inspired by your strength, resilience and support for one another.



I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend.

Heartbrokenmama ..well done for posting. You will only get love, compassion and loads of advice from this forum.



I am sorry your son is not getting the support they need, there are many mothers on this forum who I am sure will help you. My offender is my OH.