Do I let my father see his grandchildren?
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it is totally heartbreaking and of course you have every right to question what is right for you and your family.
I've not been in your position but myself and OH have 2 grandsons(his biological) the eldest has always spent a lot of time with us, he's just so adorable. OH is currently not able to live at home due to not being allowed contact with under 18's, I have a 16 year old and I'm due our only child together in a weeks time. I'm able to visit the grandchildren but I'm struggling to look after them alone and I feel so awful for the eldest boy.
I certainly do want OH to have contact with baby right now but at the same time I worry. I know I can mitigate risks but is it fair for a child being brought into such a situation that very realistically could be life long.
I think at some point from a grandparents point, you could allow supervised contact without it negatively affecting the children and you could feel they're safe. Ss will want risk assessments carried out and its likely they wouldn't be considering unsupervised.
Don't rush yourself to need to make any decisions, it's such early days. I've only been in this group(that noone wants to be in) 7 weeks myself and its still got me in such a spin x
I've not been in your position but myself and OH have 2 grandsons(his biological) the eldest has always spent a lot of time with us, he's just so adorable. OH is currently not able to live at home due to not being allowed contact with under 18's, I have a 16 year old and I'm due our only child together in a weeks time. I'm able to visit the grandchildren but I'm struggling to look after them alone and I feel so awful for the eldest boy.
I certainly do want OH to have contact with baby right now but at the same time I worry. I know I can mitigate risks but is it fair for a child being brought into such a situation that very realistically could be life long.
I think at some point from a grandparents point, you could allow supervised contact without it negatively affecting the children and you could feel they're safe. Ss will want risk assessments carried out and its likely they wouldn't be considering unsupervised.
Don't rush yourself to need to make any decisions, it's such early days. I've only been in this group(that noone wants to be in) 7 weeks myself and its still got me in such a spin x
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Thank you both for your responses, and sharing your stories.
I have decided to take down my post, as I fear I gave too much in depth information about myself/children, and worry it could cause it to lead back to me.
I know inevitably, it will be up to SS to allow my dad to have contact with my children.
Definitely agree, this is the 'club that nobody wants to be a part of'. But some of the posts on this forum have given me hope, and made me realise I'm really not alone with how I feel.
I have decided to take down my post, as I fear I gave too much in depth information about myself/children, and worry it could cause it to lead back to me.
I know inevitably, it will be up to SS to allow my dad to have contact with my children.
Definitely agree, this is the 'club that nobody wants to be a part of'. But some of the posts on this forum have given me hope, and made me realise I'm really not alone with how I feel.