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My dad got 'the knock' in 2012. I was in University at the time. It was devestating and has torn my wider family apart.
It took until 2017 for him to go to court, where he was given a suspended sentence. By this time, I lived overseas. I very much dug my head in the ground and pretended it wasn't happening. All the neighbours back home know about it and for a long time my parents were social pariahs.
I lived in a country that he was not able to even enter because of his conviction but this year I moved home, I live in my husbadn's home town. I now have a son and both my parents (still together) are involved in his life.
My son is my mum's whole world. I just can't seem to stop thinking about dad's offence, its constantly in the back of my mind and I know that if any of my husband's family ever find out it would be disastrous.
I have a new business plan, I want to set up a play cafe in my local area for parents and kids under 5, I was so excited about my idea but I have just thought. Would my dad be allowed to be there? If anyone who knows about his past found out about my business could it cause controversy. How much more of my life will be affected by this?
My brother is gay and him and his husband are talking about adoptingm my first thought is what will the backgroound checks say about our dad?
It took until 2017 for him to go to court, where he was given a suspended sentence. By this time, I lived overseas. I very much dug my head in the ground and pretended it wasn't happening. All the neighbours back home know about it and for a long time my parents were social pariahs.
I lived in a country that he was not able to even enter because of his conviction but this year I moved home, I live in my husbadn's home town. I now have a son and both my parents (still together) are involved in his life.
My son is my mum's whole world. I just can't seem to stop thinking about dad's offence, its constantly in the back of my mind and I know that if any of my husband's family ever find out it would be disastrous.
I have a new business plan, I want to set up a play cafe in my local area for parents and kids under 5, I was so excited about my idea but I have just thought. Would my dad be allowed to be there? If anyone who knows about his past found out about my business could it cause controversy. How much more of my life will be affected by this?
My brother is gay and him and his husband are talking about adoptingm my first thought is what will the backgroound checks say about our dad?
Does your dad still have a SHPO/on the SOR or is he on probation? He's would probably have to check with whoever he reports to for either of those to confirm what's allowed and what his conditions are.
Are you able to talk to your Mum and Dad about this? You could ask him if he was given a sexual harm prevention order and/or put on the sex offender register. Within all that there will have been restrictions which he would have needed to abide by. If he wasn't given one or it's expired (some are 5 years, some 10, some for life), then I don't see that any of what you're worrying about would be an issue. Was his case reported in the press? If it was, it would probably say there what restrictions were in place. X