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My partner over 15 years got arrested a few weeks back
we had a knock at the door late at night next thing we had a few police officers come in all in uniform.
im at a lost it wasn't until child services spoke to me about his case he was released on bail with two bail conditions.
he was arrested for speaking to a minor but it was a decoy he never sent any s*xual pics other than a picture of a c*ndom he did say some s*xual stuff.
he said he was stepping out on me and found this profile looked of an 18 year old. Once added he noticed the profile had two pictures and not a lot of friends so he's like yeah this is a fake account.
When the decoy mentioned age he is like no way that's bull but instead of stopping he carried on. My life been turned upside down I don't know. He's got his second interview in April.he was arrested in January but this incident happen last year.
I generally don't know what is going to happen his lawyer said if he can prove he knew it was fake and not for s*xual purposes he can get a nfa .
sorry for the long post I just don't know who to turn to.
he said if he actually believed they were that age he'd of blocked them but he adamant that it was a fake he just wanted to f*ck with it.
i wanna believe it I do but I don't know if he gets charged and people find out my life and his life will be in danger. If he gets charged what's the likely hood he ends up in the papers will he get a slap on the wrist i don't know what to do.
it was a lone decoy
what's his chances he gets a nfa as the police have said to him they've not found anything yet.
he's broken he's like it was a mistake I never believed it was a minor I generally thought it was a fake account trying to scam people.
we had a knock at the door late at night next thing we had a few police officers come in all in uniform.
im at a lost it wasn't until child services spoke to me about his case he was released on bail with two bail conditions.
he was arrested for speaking to a minor but it was a decoy he never sent any s*xual pics other than a picture of a c*ndom he did say some s*xual stuff.
he said he was stepping out on me and found this profile looked of an 18 year old. Once added he noticed the profile had two pictures and not a lot of friends so he's like yeah this is a fake account.
When the decoy mentioned age he is like no way that's bull but instead of stopping he carried on. My life been turned upside down I don't know. He's got his second interview in April.he was arrested in January but this incident happen last year.
I generally don't know what is going to happen his lawyer said if he can prove he knew it was fake and not for s*xual purposes he can get a nfa .
sorry for the long post I just don't know who to turn to.
he said if he actually believed they were that age he'd of blocked them but he adamant that it was a fake he just wanted to f*ck with it.
i wanna believe it I do but I don't know if he gets charged and people find out my life and his life will be in danger. If he gets charged what's the likely hood he ends up in the papers will he get a slap on the wrist i don't know what to do.
it was a lone decoy
what's his chances he gets a nfa as the police have said to him they've not found anything yet.
he's broken he's like it was a mistake I never believed it was a minor I generally thought it was a fake account trying to scam people.
The only thing that matters is the contents of the chat. Whatever he might have thought is impossible to prove. If he questioned the persons age and told them he didn't believe it, or if they said something that would have indicated they were older, that would be helpful, because the test is whether he could reasonably have believed they were over 18.
Unfortunately no he didn't question it I am so mad with him as he's blown out family apart he videos chatted with the decoy for a minute but it was pitch black so neither saw each other.
he was S*xual with them after the age was mentioned which I think he was so stupid the only thing the police have got is the decoy screenshots .
my head is totally messed up he said he don't know why he carried on he was being stupid but he said he genuinely knew it was fake but he never mentioned it on the chat it was fake.
what's the likelihood he will be charged I think he will be I'm not going to lie..
he was S*xual with them after the age was mentioned which I think he was so stupid the only thing the police have got is the decoy screenshots .
my head is totally messed up he said he don't know why he carried on he was being stupid but he said he genuinely knew it was fake but he never mentioned it on the chat it was fake.
what's the likelihood he will be charged I think he will be I'm not going to lie..
If I've red it right and he continued to chat sexually after decoy mentioned an age I think it's very likely he's going to be charged because he will never be able to prove he knew it was a fake account. His best bet is to plead guilty and be honest with everyone and they may take it easy on him.. I'm sorry your going through this. This whole situation is just awful, especially for us going through it with them dealing with everything and trying to decide whether or not staying is the right decision
Yeah he did continue saying a few sexual things then he left it after they kept spamming him to message on WhatsApp he declined and ignored them they then continued to spam him for 3 days asking to talk on another platform he just left it alone then the decoy reported it to the police because he was on a fake account it took them 5 months to track him down to our home.
I'm really sorry you're going through this, it sounds incredibly stressful and overwhelming. It’s understandable to feel lost, especially when everything is still uncertain. If his lawyer believes there's a chance for NFA (no further action), that’s at least a bit of reassurance, but of course, it all depends on what the police find.
In the meantime, please don’t forget to take care of yourself too. Talking to someone you trust—whether it’s a close friend, family member, or even a professional, might help you process everything. If you ever need support or legal guidance, there are organizations that can help. You’re not alone in this.