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So it's been going on since April 2023... 4 officers just turned up at our house seized my husbands devices as a "Dropbox file of 400 images" has been linked to our IP address...my husband is mortified and had no contact from the police since other than bail extension letters...
we had a baby boy in July, SS turned up and made my husband move out our home 10 days before I were due to give birth, was absolutely horrified and heartbroken and its been the hardest 6 months of my life despite all my support from my husband (can be supervised by others but not me yet which is heartbreaking if protect my son with my life). I had emergency x section and was alone with a newborn, I even had my mum look after him overnight at 5 days old as I couldn't sit and was screaming in pain, and SS even questioned why I did that when I couldn't look after myself. Broke my heart to do it.
in january his bail was only extended one month to allow CPS decision, they have never shared any information on what has been found with SS or my husbands solicitor...now his bail is due to end next week and he has not had an extension letter , they have contacted my husbands solicitor saying he will answer to his bail next week but no explanation as to why, my husband swears on our lives he has never knowingly accessed such a thing and tries to figure out every day what he could have accidentally done...
why would they not tell us anything and just expect him to return to bail? Well my husbands solicitor has said just make sure you go in and it will be fine which is a strange comment ....my husband asked them to represent him next week and isn't getting a call back...do they know something we don't? Is this necessarily a bad ending or are we finally at the end of this hell?
just wondered if anyone had anything similar or any positive stories...we're broken all we want is to be a happy family, our son is so loved even SS can see this but they just won't budge and we can't go on much longer like this.....all because f assessments and police.
as my name implies I need a miracle right now, my husband will immediately be suspended from work if anything as needs a clear DBS for his job....he pays for all the bills. if he's done this by mistake I hope they can see that, if I was to find out it was intentional then I can't even imagine how I would feel, I want to support him and get our life back no judgement...
Also I will be starting a capacity to protect assessment in the coming months is there any advice on what this involves? I have done lots of research and wrote up definitions and plans of how I'd protect my son.
thanks, just need some encouragement right now....
we had a baby boy in July, SS turned up and made my husband move out our home 10 days before I were due to give birth, was absolutely horrified and heartbroken and its been the hardest 6 months of my life despite all my support from my husband (can be supervised by others but not me yet which is heartbreaking if protect my son with my life). I had emergency x section and was alone with a newborn, I even had my mum look after him overnight at 5 days old as I couldn't sit and was screaming in pain, and SS even questioned why I did that when I couldn't look after myself. Broke my heart to do it.
in january his bail was only extended one month to allow CPS decision, they have never shared any information on what has been found with SS or my husbands solicitor...now his bail is due to end next week and he has not had an extension letter , they have contacted my husbands solicitor saying he will answer to his bail next week but no explanation as to why, my husband swears on our lives he has never knowingly accessed such a thing and tries to figure out every day what he could have accidentally done...
why would they not tell us anything and just expect him to return to bail? Well my husbands solicitor has said just make sure you go in and it will be fine which is a strange comment ....my husband asked them to represent him next week and isn't getting a call back...do they know something we don't? Is this necessarily a bad ending or are we finally at the end of this hell?
just wondered if anyone had anything similar or any positive stories...we're broken all we want is to be a happy family, our son is so loved even SS can see this but they just won't budge and we can't go on much longer like this.....all because f assessments and police.
as my name implies I need a miracle right now, my husband will immediately be suspended from work if anything as needs a clear DBS for his job....he pays for all the bills. if he's done this by mistake I hope they can see that, if I was to find out it was intentional then I can't even imagine how I would feel, I want to support him and get our life back no judgement...
Also I will be starting a capacity to protect assessment in the coming months is there any advice on what this involves? I have done lots of research and wrote up definitions and plans of how I'd protect my son.
thanks, just need some encouragement right now....
Hi,
Ok this is a hard thing to hear, but at this point you only have his word for it that he didn't intentionally access anything. I wouldn't personally underestimate the extent to which men are capable of living secret lives. My ex still maintains his innocence on IIOC - I have no concrete answers on that yet either - but has admitted to many years of infidelity & substantial secret credit card debts. Everyone who knows him, me included, is in utter shock. You would never have imagined it in a million years.
Also slightly surprised he wasn't called in for a second interview before it went to CPS? I thought that was pretty standard in IIOC cases?
Ok this is a hard thing to hear, but at this point you only have his word for it that he didn't intentionally access anything. I wouldn't personally underestimate the extent to which men are capable of living secret lives. My ex still maintains his innocence on IIOC - I have no concrete answers on that yet either - but has admitted to many years of infidelity & substantial secret credit card debts. Everyone who knows him, me included, is in utter shock. You would never have imagined it in a million years.
Also slightly surprised he wasn't called in for a second interview before it went to CPS? I thought that was pretty standard in IIOC cases?
My son is on a similar time frame to your husband.
it feels like his life is over before it's begun and we are all so incredibly sad.
he's struggled with his mental health, loneliness and confidence.
my ex husband used to put him down and I think the ex caused this.
my son had a letter to say bail extension had been refuse by court but no explanation, just he has to answer bail as before at police station.
There's only myself and my two children who know, we're worried sick.
all his devices were bought second hand at various times too.
hooe you're able t9 get somewhere soon, limbo is awful.
it feels like his life is over before it's begun and we are all so incredibly sad.
he's struggled with his mental health, loneliness and confidence.
my ex husband used to put him down and I think the ex caused this.
my son had a letter to say bail extension had been refuse by court but no explanation, just he has to answer bail as before at police station.
There's only myself and my two children who know, we're worried sick.
all his devices were bought second hand at various times too.
hooe you're able t9 get somewhere soon, limbo is awful.
Update today my husband went in and came out with 3 charges spanning 6 years over 9,300 images A B and C.....my husband seems to swear he has not an idea in the world of this but whatever has happened he will try and make it right.....we just need our dad/husband back home, he's treated me like a queen and is doing everything to protect his son and hope the SS can see this because 6 months like this is soul destroying so close to giving up....need some hope!
nit saying my husband is innocent but can they get it wrong....I'm obviously just naive...
but since then he's done nothing but help himself and focus on us, soon as court /sentence is done with we want to move on, will we be allowed...
nit saying my husband is innocent but can they get it wrong....I'm obviously just naive...
but since then he's done nothing but help himself and focus on us, soon as court /sentence is done with we want to move on, will we be allowed...
Sorry to hear this. That is a lot of images Im sorry to say hes probably not being honest with you