When to tell our daughter about her brother ?
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Our son who lives alone and nearby us has been charged with making (downloading) a large number of Cat A, B and C images.
We are devastated and trying to comprehend this but it's so difficult and ashamed.
His plea hearing is soon.
We have a daughter who is at secondary school and at a loss to know if we should tell her before the plea hearing or wait until he is sentenced.
We are devastated and trying to comprehend this but it's so difficult and ashamed.
His plea hearing is soon.
We have a daughter who is at secondary school and at a loss to know if we should tell her before the plea hearing or wait until he is sentenced.
Have ss been involved at all or are the school aware? It might be an idea to ask the school for names of a few names of teachers who could form a support network for your daughter.
Depending on her age and developmental stage I think she should be told but obviously this has its own issues if she chooses to confide in others her age. By giving her trusted adults who know the situation it could help her to ask any questions she has or voice any emotions she may experience and need to process.
I would likely talk to her about porn and how her brother ended up in this situation. Just like an adult hearing this news she will probably experience many different feelings about her brother, letting her express these safely even if they upset you is necessary. Telling her that there is no right way to feel is probably a good starting point xxx
Depending on her age and developmental stage I think she should be told but obviously this has its own issues if she chooses to confide in others her age. By giving her trusted adults who know the situation it could help her to ask any questions she has or voice any emotions she may experience and need to process.
I would likely talk to her about porn and how her brother ended up in this situation. Just like an adult hearing this news she will probably experience many different feelings about her brother, letting her express these safely even if they upset you is necessary. Telling her that there is no right way to feel is probably a good starting point xxx
We are at the point of soon needing to tell our grandchildren who live with us about their father and the children's SW has talked to LFF for advice. One thing they said is that it's our son who should do the telling, in appropriate words of course. We would be there too. Could your son be part of the conversation? Perhaps you could speak to someone at LFF for further advice, ways to say it so as to be age appropriate etc. Good luck! We are dreading it......