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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2462 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 5:08pmReport post

Afternoon lovlies x

Well where did this week go! One minute its Monday, I blinked and here we are! :-)

An emotional week again on the forum and today been that it's well I dont even have to say it as we all know ( Red is the colour that fills the day) but for many of us its tinged with sadness)

My own little bit of advice ( and this is just me) no matter what stage, no matter how sad you feel, desperate even at times! Remember you are incredibly special, strong, beautiful inside and out, take a day at a time, take a deep breath, and remember to us here you are you are enough!

HC is doing ok, considering they have had not hot water for 2 days, food has been limited to cold food ( mind you the hot food is often questionable at the best of times) as no means of cooking hot food, how can a prison not sort the issue out!!!!

I have the furbaby for the weekend and she is next to me snoring away! Bless her

Anyway enough of me prattiling on

I hope you all have something to look forward to over the weekend and remember to do something nice for you!

Love sent as always xx

Edited Fri February 14, 2025 6:29pm

lostinthewoods

Member since
September 2024

95 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 6:58pmReport post

Happy Friday!!
Upset it's lovely to hear your boy is doing ok even without hot food!!
We've had an up and down week - bail extended on Monday (again), OH's birthday Wednesday - we took ourselves out for the day and had lunch at a national trust place - and a long long walk which always clears our heads. Then I started the Inform course in the evening.

Looking forward to a weekend of not doing very much, he's really trying to be a better person and has shown such remorse that it's all I can hope for. For me, the choice to support was the right one.

So much pain on the forum this week that my heart breaks for each and every one and I hope everyone has as good a weekend as they can

hugs to all xx

FromTheAshes

Member since
January 2025

33 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 7:29pmReport post

Hiya all and happy friday.

And for those of use who have made it to another half-term. We did it!

I for one am looking forward to not having to do the school run - in both directions every. single. day. A week with no work run, painting on the tough exterior., pretending to care in meetings when storm clouds are brewing in my mind. We will head away for a couple of nights to get a change of scene, but if the children want an all day pj and tv day the other days. count me in!

Struggling a bit today with valentines day. he always made it really special. But at the moment everything he did just tastes bad.

Like last friday, I found some words that help - written by someone with far better grasp of words. Donna Asworth.



To the woman who hasn’t been herself for a while

Stay hopeful…That your spark will reignite soon.

That this weight will heave itself from your tired shoulders, soon.

That you’ll recognize the girl in the mirror again someday. Soon.

Don’t let the fear rise up and engulf you in the middle of the night anymore.

It’s not real.

It’s a lie and it’s keeping you down.

This will pass.

You, you’re still in there.

Hang on.

The thing is, my friend.

Life can be heavy, it can be draining and sometimes it can feel like you’re the only one getting it all wrong.

You’re not.

You really aren’t.

Look around any room and I promise you everyone you see, has felt the same way before, or will someday in the future.

And it will pass.

You’ll be back.

To the girl who hasn’t been herself for a while.

Don’t worry.

This is just a chapter not your whole story.

Never believe otherwise.


Sending light and I am so grateful for all of you.

Ashes x

Edited Fri February 14, 2025 7:30pm

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2462 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 8:30pmReport post

Lost x

Birthday wishes to your OH x so pleased you managed to get out in the fresh air, it really does allow you to just get lost in the scenery, fresh air

This journey is full of so many emotions, then having to deal with bail been extended is just another obstacle to deal with

The question of supporting or not is down to our own decision that is something no one can tell us what to do

Some leave, that is absolutely the right thing for them, some stay again that is the right thing for them

For me I am so grateful I didn't have to decide or make a decision, and it's the same for you take a day at a time that's all we can do xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

473 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 8:46pmReport post

Hello Friday check in,

This week has gone better than last week, hoorah to that! Had a couple of days off and enjoyed both days. Got next week off work. So just planning on things to do. Obviously line dancing, but joined gym so going there. A trip to London to visit my mother in law who is in a care home and does not know about her son, and then a night away. A chnage of four walls. Looking at booking a trip on my own, i need a holiday so going to look into that.

Sorry to hear about HC cold food but nice you have the furbaby this weekend.

Sending love to you all. Xx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

860 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 8:52pmReport post

I'm starting to feel the consequences of covering the jobs of 3 people at work but there is light at the end of the tunnel with 2 new people starting next week. Hopefully after a few weeks training they'll be able to ease the load and I'll be able to go back to working the hours I'm actually paid for.

I've struggled this week with the actions of the keyboard warriors in my local area following the sentencing and media coverage of a couple of cases. I have so much empathy for the families and people involved.

Tomorrow the grandchildren will be arriving for the weeks half term which they and my son are looking forward to. I'll be working the first part of the week so my husband will be providing the supervision. As I'm writing this, it's occurred to me how far we've come on our journey as I realise that accommodating the SHPO restrictions has become part of life for us.

To those of you struggling try and remember that life won't always feel this hard.

PrairieMom

Member since
May 2024

98 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 9:05pmReport post

Hello, Friday check in.

Something just happened that made me laugh. My phone auto corrected "Friday check-in" to "fried Chicken". Maybe that's a sign. I should pick up some fried chicken this weekend LOL.

As usual, I'm so sad for all the new people joining us this week. I remember so well what that was like.

What a beautiful poem that is. I can relate to the wish to feel more like myself one day.

My three kids got together and bought me some flowers and chocolates for Valentine's Day. It was definitely led by my older daughter, her kindness and empathy just amazes me.

I'm off work Monday so looking forward to a long weekend. I hope you all have a nice weekend too.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2462 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 9:31pmReport post

Prairie x

That made me chuckle, maybe I should change Friday check in to Fried chicken ;-) ;-)

Treat yourself definitely xx

FromTheAshes

Member since
January 2025

33 posts

Posted Fri February 14, 2025 10:05pmReport post

It really does warm my heart to hear stories of hope from you all.

And fried chicken. Hahaha. Love it!

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2658 posts

Posted Sat February 15, 2025 5:50amReport post

Oh yes I'm with you guys on thoughts of fried chicken, I now have a vision of us all in one big 'meet up' scoffing buckets of it with fries!!!!! We're not allowed to talk about what we're going through just be together to chill & have fun! Haha....

My week has been good, made better by a very giggly upbeat conversation with my son yesterday - wow the programme he has been on, has certainly boosted his confidence. I'm so happy with this. We talked about so much ridiculous irrelevant stuff ..... yes gave me a boost. He certainly has a unique sense of humour!

Upset, the prison food is mostly dire. It sounds as though my son picks any good bits out a meal, then constructs his own meals usually with noodles bought on his canteen. So chicken was most welcome yest (not fried) :-) He was out yesterday mowing the grounds wearing his newly issued coat & prized beanie hat!

As for me stomach pain is easing now and had time with grandkiddies this week which is always good. So yes a good update from Mrs Smile xxxxx

Love to you all x

Edited Sat February 15, 2025 5:56am

mum1982H

Member since
September 2022

43 posts

Posted Sat February 15, 2025 10:26amReport post

Another Friday gone!

Absolutely agree, just getting out for some fresh air really can make the world of difference.

This time last week I'd never felt in such a dark place. But it was just a feeling. With a brand new baby, birthed alone, feeling totally detached because noone really knew why I was alone.

Today couldn't be futher from that, My mum took it upon herself to tell my sisters the real reason after they'd visited and saw how inconsolable I was. Obviously the baby blues played their part and my ever rising blood pressure giving me anxiety.I didn't want them to know and I did completely block them out for a few days but I now see in reality it needed to happen.

OH had a notice of application to extend bail which was expected Thursday, he's not met baby yet but I'm hopeful that ss will be happy to put plans in place soon.

Baby is an absolute diamond and has wrapped her grown up sisters around her finger.

getting out of the house has only comprised of a 7 hr trip to hospital and to the gp and pharmacy but it really helped not looking at the same 4 walls.

gonna use this week to be hopeful and grateful.