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Tigerstripes

Member since
June 2023

7 posts

Posted Sat February 15, 2025 3:27pmReport post

My ex partner has not been able to see our child unsupervised for over 2 years. He technically didn't do anything illegal - but did admit a sexual attraction to underage children - hence Social Services put a plan in place for him to have supervised contact with our child. I have been supervising the contact.

He has since engaged with the Stop it Now courses and has been seeing a therapist weekly for over a year now. He now understands the root of his problematic behaviour and has some strategies in place to help prevent him from going down that path again.

We would like it if he could have unsupervised access to our child.

Has anyone had any experience in asking Social Services to reconsider and and allow your person to see your child unsupervised?

We are drawing up a safety plan and he's asked his therapist to confirm he's attended therapy. Is there anything else we can do?

Child is at primary school and there is no court-order from Social Services over the contact.

Thanks in advance,

Edited Sat February 15, 2025 3:28pm

Skysie98

Member since
May 2024

31 posts

Posted Sat February 15, 2025 6:26pmReport post

My partner originally was considered high risk etc He admitted sexual attraction too

We lost our daughter to the system for 18 months.

They said I couldn't supervise and he couldn't be alone with her.



She came home after 18 months he's now allowed unsupervised contact as long as no personal care on his own.

We didn't even ask to be honest they suggested it .

Just want to give you a bit of hope that it is possible :)



I would say when considering saftey plan include things like no personal care and one we put in is not allowed in her bedroom.

Edited Sat February 15, 2025 6:28pm

Tigerstripes

Member since
June 2023

7 posts

Posted Tue February 18, 2025 5:42pmReport post

Thanks for your reply, and for the tips on the safety plan. I hadn't really considered how personal care would work. Our child is still quite young and needs a little help now and again. Something to think about.

I'm glad your child came home.

Hope is always appreciated! It can be in short supply sometimes!

Edited Tue February 18, 2025 5:43pm

Skysie98

Member since
May 2024

31 posts

Posted Wed February 19, 2025 4:34pmReport post

No worries.

And yes something to think about. Our little one is also little (2).

When she's older will be easier when she can do things on her own.

And thank you it was a very hard road but got their in the end

And yes sometimes hope can be hard to come by.

Glad I can give you a little bit :)

Edited Wed February 19, 2025 4:36pm