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I'm so sad this Xmas as was just the 4 of us my 2 elder teenagers and the other have I am still with just!!! I cry a lot have to deal with everything he's constantly loosing everything and he gets so moody with us all I do and don't love him as does all of us here that have chosen to stay with our husbands but all he does is eat sometimes sleep and works in his new temporary job I had no family at our for Xmas and this is a first time ever with no one round I think it's because of him yet like all you out there going through the same I done nothing wrong yet I'm the one suffering crying again as I'm writing this just needing to rant and vent my kneww is massively swollen I have anaphylaxis just going through all of this is taking a massive impact on my mental health yet of I leave him feel there would be no point as would probably be worse no one to speak to about this except my mum and at that bless her she cries too think coz I know first court will be soon knock was May so all this worry yet every one is going to be wishing me a happy new year errr no it's another crappy year I don't even have any friends I'm just a mess at moment but I'm so grateful of this group as all you lovely people are in the same place as I am xxx
Oh Viktor,
My heart goes out to you. Everything we thought about our other half becomes shaken to the core. Our lives become shook to the core. And everything is amplified because it's Christmas. We have got so far. Take strength from that. My ex is completely blanking it ATM. Coping mechanism. And can be very cruel to me. I cry. For everything when I'm with him now. What we've lost, what we can't ever have back etc. This process is tough. Mine isn't too far behind yours but I believe we have much longer to wait until court etc. Please remember how strong you've been so far. We are strong. Whatever we have chosen to do in terms of the offender. Hugs. P. X
My heart goes out to you. Everything we thought about our other half becomes shaken to the core. Our lives become shook to the core. And everything is amplified because it's Christmas. We have got so far. Take strength from that. My ex is completely blanking it ATM. Coping mechanism. And can be very cruel to me. I cry. For everything when I'm with him now. What we've lost, what we can't ever have back etc. This process is tough. Mine isn't too far behind yours but I believe we have much longer to wait until court etc. Please remember how strong you've been so far. We are strong. Whatever we have chosen to do in terms of the offender. Hugs. P. X
Hi.
I want you to know that you are not alone and it's great that you have joined this forum for support.
It's so incredibly tough right from the moment you get 'the knock' and life as you know it is gone. Being a partner means you are constantly punished despite being innocent.
What helped me (as it's not a topic you can just talk to your friends about) was ringing the LFF helpline. It did me good to speak to people who listened without judgement. Also, consider seeing your Doctor for a referral to counselling and a prescription of medication, if it is appropriate. Remember that your Doctor and other professionals are bound to confidentiality so you can tell them as much as you wish.
I hope that getting support will allow you to start thinking more clearly. There is no right decision here - whether you stay with an offender or leave, it's whatever is best for you in the long-term.
All the best.
M-B
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I want you to know that you are not alone and it's great that you have joined this forum for support.
It's so incredibly tough right from the moment you get 'the knock' and life as you know it is gone. Being a partner means you are constantly punished despite being innocent.
What helped me (as it's not a topic you can just talk to your friends about) was ringing the LFF helpline. It did me good to speak to people who listened without judgement. Also, consider seeing your Doctor for a referral to counselling and a prescription of medication, if it is appropriate. Remember that your Doctor and other professionals are bound to confidentiality so you can tell them as much as you wish.
I hope that getting support will allow you to start thinking more clearly. There is no right decision here - whether you stay with an offender or leave, it's whatever is best for you in the long-term.
All the best.
M-B
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