Autistic Son , devastated Mother
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Please can anyone offer me a ray of hope and tell me how to survive this awful journey which will only end in more tears ? Mind on constant overdrive and waiting for the next body blow when everyone finds out - the waiting and wondering is brutal
I'm sorry you're here. Its absolutely horrendous. Its just over 2 weeks since The Knock, so all i can offer is what's helping me. Take one day at a time. Some days will be worse than others, some better than others. When youre having a good day, don't feel guilty about it. I'm lucky that I have my best friend to talk to, a busy job to distract me, and me and my person are talking more openly than we ever have done. Well, he is, because he has to be if he's going to get through this with me supporting him. I think the talking is helping me more than anything, as it's helping me to understand how he got to this. Be kind to yourself, feel all the feelings, don't fight them and bottle them up. They need to come out. If I get overwhelmed I'll lie down and do some breathing exercises, or go for a walk. Do nice things for yourself. Tell as few people as possible. You don't need to worry about their judgement as well as everything else. I've also accepted that this is going to take months to get to court, possibly 2 years. Call the helpline - i did that the day after and the lady I spoke to helped so much. Consider going on the Inform course. I'm on the list and can't wait. Xx
We've been waiting 3 yrs, the waiting and treatment by the Police has been horrendous. It's drained me.
Oh that's just awful, I'm so sorry. X
Winnie07, this time round (second knock, the idiot reoffended) it's taken 3 years. He was due to be sentenced a few weeks ago but it was adjourned the night before. So now it's on 5/3. I'm terrified of the press again.
Little robin, that's just awful, such short notice , where is the humanity . The whole justice system is broken and inhumane. It's almost like no one dare speak up because the whole subject is so socially frowned upon, plus we don't want any more publicity or to risk being identified . In fact I put a complaint in about the police , police crime commissioner just basically ignored me and the Inspector dealing with it said not to complain to anyone because we would just risk being identified- result for the Police who just get away with the way they treat people !
My son was advised not to plea so now waiting for various assessments to assess his capability to plead. If not, it will be a Finding of Facts hearing and a decision will be made . We are just being led along trying to trust that justice will be done.
My son was advised not to plea so now waiting for various assessments to assess his capability to plead. If not, it will be a Finding of Facts hearing and a decision will be made . We are just being led along trying to trust that justice will be done.
Winnie you have my utmost empathy as we too have been waiting 3 years and it's nearly a year since second interview. Silence......
What amazes me is that there are quite a few people that have been waiting longer than us! It's absolutely disgusting how we are treated, just down to incompetence in the police and CPS.
Look after yourself X
What amazes me is that there are quite a few people that have been waiting longer than us! It's absolutely disgusting how we are treated, just down to incompetence in the police and CPS.
Look after yourself X
Winnie, My son is autistic and we are 1.5 years since crown court. I hear you, I survived most of the time we were going through it. If you need anyone to chat too, please feel free to reach out. sending you lots of love and strengh