Court tomorrow
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So as many of you will have seen from my previous posts, the first of court happens.
I'm absolutely terrified, as the new solicitor has told us to prepare for the worst, but is hoping at worst case it's suspended. But she hasn't seen the evidence and wont until tomorrow, but has had the prosecution notes and a summary. And has said that it could be delt with there and then.
What's it like in court? What do they do? What kind of stuff will the say? Would you recommend going?
Has anyone ever had to write an impact statement? What kind of thing do I put in there? If my person ends up in prison, we'd lose our home, parents lose their home along with 2 others.
I've already spoken to my older children's school, and their point of contact ( she's apart of safe guarding) has said my babies are to go in tomorrow, and she will arrange for a second breakfast and hot chocolate will be waiting for them, and that at any point through the day they can go back to her if they need too.
I just needed to get this out so not sure if it's making sense. But thankyou for listening.
I'm absolutely terrified, as the new solicitor has told us to prepare for the worst, but is hoping at worst case it's suspended. But she hasn't seen the evidence and wont until tomorrow, but has had the prosecution notes and a summary. And has said that it could be delt with there and then.
What's it like in court? What do they do? What kind of stuff will the say? Would you recommend going?
Has anyone ever had to write an impact statement? What kind of thing do I put in there? If my person ends up in prison, we'd lose our home, parents lose their home along with 2 others.
I've already spoken to my older children's school, and their point of contact ( she's apart of safe guarding) has said my babies are to go in tomorrow, and she will arrange for a second breakfast and hot chocolate will be waiting for them, and that at any point through the day they can go back to her if they need too.
I just needed to get this out so not sure if it's making sense. But thankyou for listening.
You're ahead of me in the journey so I have no advice, but just sending a hand to hold.
what are the charges? X
what are the charges? X
Holding your hand here too, wishing I had some advice, but its very early days for me. Deep breaths xx
Best of luck tomorrow, will be thinking of you. The lady at the school sounds like an utter legend X
Hi all thankyou for your kind words they really do mean so much! I hope your all doing as well as you can, in this awful journey. Charges are attempted communication.
The lady at school, is absolutely amazing she has argued my corner and fought for what is best with my girls with the head of safe guarding too.... I'd of been lost without her this whole journey!
Sending you all some big hugs
The lady at school, is absolutely amazing she has argued my corner and fought for what is best with my girls with the head of safe guarding too.... I'd of been lost without her this whole journey!
Sending you all some big hugs
Sending a hug - my person will also be a communication offence when the time comes and I'm absolutely petrified of what is going to happen. I'm undecided whether to go to court or not at the moment. Will be thinking of you xx
Sending you some massive hugs lostinthewoods, I'm going to court tomorrow, as much as anything so I can see the evidence for my self. But so that my person has just a little bit of support behind him too. X
Hi, if you suspect your person isn't being completely honest with you, then I'd attend court. When I went, I was the only person there apart from my daughter. My person stood in the dock which was just in front of where the Judge sits and 2 other court officials. The sentencing hearing took about 45 minutes. I regret that my 18 year old daughter was there because The judge read out detailed descriptions of some of the Category A images. It was beyond anything I could've imagined and I'll never forget it. I wrote to the Judge beforehand a letter of "support" for my person describing him as a dad and a husband. I described what sort of a person he was. The Judge asked if I was present so I stood up. He complimented me on my "thoughtful " letter and told my ex he was extremely fortunate to have such support given the circumstances. The rest of the hearing was quite boring.
The other thing about going to court is the press potentially. I was told that if there wasn't a court reporter there then it wouldn't go in the press etc. There wasn't a reporter there that day. However, 6 weeks later, the local Police press office released a statement which included his photo, name, age, the road we lived in when he was arrested and was still mine and my children's address, his crimes and sentence. This was then reported on the local Police FB page which was then picked up by local papers. It was horrendous. Nowadays the reporters tend to dial into the court remotely which you are unlikely to know about. The press can report anything that's said in court. My ex reoffended and is due to be sentenced again in a week. I won't be attending . I saw a post on here from someone who said she attended court to get the facts of the case. She wasn't there to support the person. However, the press reported that his "partner" was at court "supporting him". This wasn't the case!
You can contact,
https://www.prisonersfamilies.org/
They have volunteers who can attend with you or on your behalf. They can also phone the court afterwards for the outcome and let you know.
I hope it all works out for the best for you. X
The other thing about going to court is the press potentially. I was told that if there wasn't a court reporter there then it wouldn't go in the press etc. There wasn't a reporter there that day. However, 6 weeks later, the local Police press office released a statement which included his photo, name, age, the road we lived in when he was arrested and was still mine and my children's address, his crimes and sentence. This was then reported on the local Police FB page which was then picked up by local papers. It was horrendous. Nowadays the reporters tend to dial into the court remotely which you are unlikely to know about. The press can report anything that's said in court. My ex reoffended and is due to be sentenced again in a week. I won't be attending . I saw a post on here from someone who said she attended court to get the facts of the case. She wasn't there to support the person. However, the press reported that his "partner" was at court "supporting him". This wasn't the case!
You can contact,
https://www.prisonersfamilies.org/
They have volunteers who can attend with you or on your behalf. They can also phone the court afterwards for the outcome and let you know.
I hope it all works out for the best for you. X
I have been to 2 of my person's (my dad) court appearances. I don't know if it is a huge difference with us being North of the border but I'll share my experiences at both. The first (just before my grandad's funeral) was, I believe, just for bail and was literally us sitting for 4 hours watching people come and go in the dock before the sheriff. This first meeting was behind closed doors. I missed his plea court appearance and I regret it because he was shocked and really struggled. He made a mistake and I do not take it lightly but I'm also aware of the struggles with his mental health and issues so he has made a ridiculous mistake and will accept the consequences and I'm working with him to ensure it never happens again. While not going into details he has told me it is iioc and there were many "more than he could believe" and the one article I decided to look at through a google search had photo, but a detail of the crime, his name, age and the street he lives on. He was in shock after this but has had a good relationship with the team from stop It Now, the police who is it and the social worker who is helping. We were ready for the worst last month for the sentencing and the solicitor (stand in ours was ill) said we should prepare for custodial. The actual day was again sitting listening to th others coming and going. On our turn There were questions the wanted answers for that he didn't know, so we've had it extended until March and will be back again ready for anything.
I don't know if it helps at all.
I don't know if it helps at all.
Thankyou both, I'll definitely try and get them rung tonight little Robin, what do I say? I'm useless with phone calls, I'll of course keep everyone posted when I know more xx
Good luck for tomorrow hope it all goes well for you sending you love and hugs xx
Wishing the best possible outcome for you tomorrow. I waited in the waiting room during the plea hearing at magistrates court but went into the court for sentencing at crown court.
I didn't go. He didn't want me to. Part of me wishes I had - if only to hear the whole story. I'm in Scotland and found another way to get the same information. Quite enlightening.
Tinkabella, I'll message you.
Hi all, so been to court and home, the judge wasn't happy with the prosecution... for the time its taken and the fact it was a DECOY! It seemed very much a why the hell you you doing this cr@p. But he was firm and fair.
Bail conditions have been changed, my person now only can't be near under 18s without parental consent. Otherwise known as court bail.
I was absolutely terrified about court, I was starting to panic, and even shed buckets of tears.
Probation are involved and so is someone from the police too. It went better than I'd thought, and my girls can have unsupervised access to their dad ( with social services approval ). Don't be afraid to ask questions, don't be afraid to open your mouth if something isn't right or your unsure. Back for sentencing on the 28th of March.
Thankyou all for keeping us all in your thoughts, and all your messages, they really are very much appreciated xxx
Bail conditions have been changed, my person now only can't be near under 18s without parental consent. Otherwise known as court bail.
I was absolutely terrified about court, I was starting to panic, and even shed buckets of tears.
Probation are involved and so is someone from the police too. It went better than I'd thought, and my girls can have unsupervised access to their dad ( with social services approval ). Don't be afraid to ask questions, don't be afraid to open your mouth if something isn't right or your unsure. Back for sentencing on the 28th of March.
Thankyou all for keeping us all in your thoughts, and all your messages, they really are very much appreciated xxx
I'm glad you got this hurdle out of the way! Wishing you the very best xxx
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Thank you for the update. I wish you and your family well.