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Tinkabella

Member since
June 2024

41 posts

So I posted my update Thursday saying person pleaded guilty and we're back next month.



Can anyone help reassure me on how I can get my person home please?



There's only one condition as it stands and that's no unsupervised access to under 18s without parental consent.

We're not going to rush them getting home full time but our babies miss them, and our family nights.



Thanks for reading.

Posted Sat March 1, 2025 3:55pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1170 posts

What are your current arrangements with ss? I've just started the process for hopefully a gradual return. I only put the self referral in last week so I'm only on in this stage but 4 years post sentencing xxx

Posted Sat March 1, 2025 4:59pmReport post

Haze23

Member since
December 2023

50 posts

Hi Tinkabella, I'm guessing you have children if he can't come home. Please be aware it may take a long time. I thought after sentencing he could at least come straight home but no..

my OH was not allowed back to his own home until 5 months post sentencing. You will have social services, police supervisor and probation to come up with a plan and multiple home visits likely before returning home which can take months.

Posted Sat March 1, 2025 5:00pmReport post

Lifeisover

Member since
January 2025

134 posts

Were your children young or teens?

Posted Sat March 1, 2025 11:58pmReport post

Tinkabella

Member since
June 2024

41 posts

Hi all, sorry it's taken me a while to reply, with ss everything so far has been based on worst case so charged and us staying together.

At the moment it's no unsupervised access, but can be here when ever he wants for how long.

We have 5 girls aged between 15 and 5, so there is a safety plan in place and the girls are on cin. Solicitor said he could come home just need the ok from social services.

I'm dreading the home visits cause of my ptsd but the police and probation know this, they also know the reasons why I've got ptsd.

Many thanks

Posted Sun March 2, 2025 2:59pmReport post

Confused&worried

Member since
June 2022

328 posts

I think this is a difficult question to answer. So many factors have to be considered. From my experience, SS didn't back down until I confirmed that I was ending our marriage.

Fortunately we ended up with a more open minded SW so hope that now the case is closed, we may be able to rebuild are family. We are 2.5 years post Knock and only had the SS case closed in Jan. I don't expect my OH to be coming home for at least a nother couple of years.

I don't want to rain on your parade, others may have found things easier than us.

Posted Sun March 2, 2025 8:12pmReport post

Tinkabella

Member since
June 2024

41 posts

No thankyou confused, that's helped alot. We've worked with ss all the way through this, with safety plans in place and me forever adding to it etc. I've even taken my level 3 safeguarding which they know. I've always said I wanted them all to be unsupervised with him at some point and would work towards that, I'm praying that our Social workers manager will see what's best for them. They aren't pushing for us to stay together or split either, currently on our 3rd social worker in 13 months hence why I say our sw's manager.



Here's hoping we can all get the outcomes we want

Posted Sun March 2, 2025 8:54pmReport post

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