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It depends on the material accessed and how it compares to the children at home.

It's very common for boys to be victims and in iioc. Maybe only slightly less common than females I believe x

I've seen it taken into account in risk assessments. Eg if the man had looked exclusively at female children of a certain age and a male child of a different age was in the house this can sometimes but taken into account, but not always.

I think it depends on your circumstances and the individual social worker. My person was found with iioc of older teen girls age undetermined (1catA and 2cat c I think it was). I have a primary aged boy. It was immediately assessed as high risk, no access not allowed to live under same roof, supervised by multiple others and me only once I'd had assessments complete and done all the courses and explained to my child exactly why dad had been arrested and why social services were coming to see them.
They have to look at the worst possible scenario being likely; with children's safety it's very much guilty and high risk and they work down from there. Equally you can't say 100% that you know they'd never do that because most of us don't know what they were upto to start with and didn't see it coming; unfortunately. So our judgement isn't seen as brilliant at the start because we didn't know. Now further down the line I feel like you have to become an expert on things you really wish you didn't have to know but its to protect children or other vulnerable people from ending up down this road. If only everyone out there knew the risks in as much detail and horror as we do!

I think the thing is until you're stuck in this situation you always think it happena to someone else and not you. But I bet it's more widespread than we think. If it makes you feel any better.....this happens to social workers, people who work in police and for solicitors and people whose jobs involve safeguarding too, as well as people who work in IT and know how to be safe online. Some of the ladies on the forum have said this; and that it makes them feel worse.....because they're so actively involved in preventing or aware and it happens anyway. Because we can't control what other people do and if you trust someone you would never think they'd do this. Many suspect any odd behaviour is affairs or gaming addiction, with me I thought it was depression/mental health issues; I would never in a million of years suspected what it actually was!!!