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Mashaal

Member since
November 2024

7 posts

9 months post knock. OH remains under investigation for conversations with underage. There were 7 conversations and all decoys. We are all together as a family even though our world turned upside down supporting each other as best as we can. SS closed our CIN file in February following a positive outcome on the CSafe assessment for OH. Our son is due to start secondary school in September. At the last meeting we had with SW, she told us to be honest with new school and request a meeting with DSL of new schools. Son has an intro afternoon at new school next week. At what stage did people request the meeting with the DSL? What did you tell them?how much? I don't even know how to word it to them ????

Posted Tue March 4, 2025 6:16pm
Edited Tue March 4, 2025 8:32pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1149 posts

Hi,

I would probably book an appointment to meet with the DSL in July before they break up for the summer. I put it on the forms when confirming my daughters nursery place and had an appointment with the DSL in September. We were post sentencing and our daughter is obviously too young to know anything about what has happened so I felt it was important to be honest and make sure she has eyes on her and a support network for the changes that we have planned in terms of reunification.

In your situation I'd suggest saying something like previous ss involvement showed dad is low risk to your children but you'd like to form a support network within his new school for going through the legal process as you know there are different outcomes that might impact your children's norm. Let them know that you'll make contact if there are any changes and ask them to contact you if they have any concerns about your child xxx

Posted Wed March 5, 2025 10:34amReport post

Mashaal

Member since
November 2024

7 posts

Thank you. That's very helpful as we do also have a 2 year old(she will be 3 when she starts a new nursery in September).

Posted Thu March 6, 2025 10:48amReport post

Sad&Scared

Member since
January 2024

135 posts

My eldest was in Year 7 when my now ex OH was pulled in for IIOC and I arranged a meeting with his year head straightaway. She was absolutely great, really just anxious to make sure he was supported. She also gave me the strong impression this wasn't the only such situation she'd dealt with. She did tell me honestly that the school had children whose dads were in prison.

Posted Sun March 16, 2025 7:35pmReport post

Wearyoptimist

Member since
May 2024

1 post

I also had a good experience in letting my child's school know. The DSL was very understanding.

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 9:30pmReport post

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