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I am just so angry and hurt by my sister at the moment. We fell out back in September when I tried to explain exactly what had happened with my OH and how it was all a set up. She wasn't having any of it and started throwing accusations more or less straight away. She is someone who you can't reason with, not just about this but everything. She is ALWAYS right no matter what! It is now March and she is till going on about what has happened. A couple of weeks ago she was in a Cafe having a coffee with a friend. A friend of mine was also in there at the same time with a friend. My sister went up to my friend and said "Did you know that me and my sister haven't spoken since september" Luckily my friend did know as I had told her everything. My sister then shouted really loud to My friend "look up ....... on the internet and you will see why we don't speak. My sister has told loads of people around where we live and it does cause me anxiety, stress, worry etc. I just wonder how your own flesh and blood can be so nasty. The trouble with my sister is she thinks her little family are all pefect and can't do no wrong. I just feel I need to vent a little at the moment. I don't post on here much but I do read it most days and feel for every single one of you on here. We are all going through this difficult experience in some way and this is the only place that no one seems to judge.
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Hi I'm so sorry your sister has reacted in the way she has. Perhaps you could try having a chat with your brother-in-law and asking him to see if he could talk to your sister. It's not nice when things like that happen you've been through enough stress as it is and it's been proven. It was a misunderstanding so really she should be more forgiving and more on your side and supportive of you. You haven't said what your parents feel about the situation perhaps they could sit your sister down and have a chat with her about it. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. Sending you love and hugs xxx
Thanks for the reply Stan cat
My Brother in Law won't talk to me either. They only see the bad side of things and not all the lovely things we have done for them over the last 28 years of me and my other half being married and especially what we have done for my two nephews. We treated them as our own as I was unable to have children myself. My Mum is too frightened to say anything to my sister as my siter will stop my Mum from seeing the great grandchildren. Exactly the same as what she has done to me with poisoining them all against me and my hubby.
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My Brother in Law won't talk to me either. They only see the bad side of things and not all the lovely things we have done for them over the last 28 years of me and my other half being married and especially what we have done for my two nephews. We treated them as our own as I was unable to have children myself. My Mum is too frightened to say anything to my sister as my siter will stop my Mum from seeing the great grandchildren. Exactly the same as what she has done to me with poisoining them all against me and my hubby.
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My dog is the best. I have privately messaged you xxx
Can understand how upset you must be feeling with your sisters rejection. My sisters obviously hold their opinions as to what their nephew did but they've been nothing but supportive towards me.
It hurts but I've learnt it's too exhausting to change peoples views and I just haven't the energy to spare. You can sit back and gloat with your perfect family but as we know this can happen to any family. You don't have a dot of understanding til it sadly happens.......
It's very cruel to lash out at you though, at a time when you need her, tis out of order.....
It hurts but I've learnt it's too exhausting to change peoples views and I just haven't the energy to spare. You can sit back and gloat with your perfect family but as we know this can happen to any family. You don't have a dot of understanding til it sadly happens.......
It's very cruel to lash out at you though, at a time when you need her, tis out of order.....
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Thanks for you comment. Exactly, no one knows what any of us are going through and none of us expected any of this to happen. Up until all this happened my OH was the best person ever in their eyes but now he is this complete and utter monster.
I have stuck by him and we are trying our hardest to get through all this. It's difficult as it is without my sister adding to it. I still get my good and bad days but it's part of it I suppose. I just wish she would leave us alone and concentrate on her own life. Maybe she's more bored than she realises and that's why she's like she is. Something bad could happen to her family one day and one thing I know for sure is after the way she has treated me "I won't be there for her" As the old saying goes Karma
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Thanks for you comment. Exactly, no one knows what any of us are going through and none of us expected any of this to happen. Up until all this happened my OH was the best person ever in their eyes but now he is this complete and utter monster.
I have stuck by him and we are trying our hardest to get through all this. It's difficult as it is without my sister adding to it. I still get my good and bad days but it's part of it I suppose. I just wish she would leave us alone and concentrate on her own life. Maybe she's more bored than she realises and that's why she's like she is. Something bad could happen to her family one day and one thing I know for sure is after the way she has treated me "I won't be there for her" As the old saying goes Karma
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My sister did this same exact thing to me in the early days post knock along with cousins who i was extremely close with. I think the rejection from her hurt more than what my OH did. It truly caught me off guard and I found myself begging for their understanding. Eventualy I just shut down to them. My sister came around somewhat and we are talking but my cousins have not reached out once to check on me and my children. I lost every close person in my life. It is devastating but I am finally starting to accept it all and figure out how to move forward. So sorry you are in this same situation it truly is awful.
Hi letitgo.
Your situation is exactly like mine. My very close cousins have also done the same to me. I feel as if we are guilty by association even though we had NO idea what our OH's were up to. All we ask for is a bit of support from our families but there is nothing from they. Maybe one day they will be in a situation where they need our support and may realise how difficult our lives are right now. If it was the other way around and my sister needed my support I would've been the first to be there for her regardless. I don't think I can ever move past how much they have all hurt me! We hadn't been in touch with my OH's brother for 14 years, reached out to him and he's been amazing. We are as close to him now as we were all that time ago. He went to court with my OH, phoned me up to tell me the outcome and we see him as much as possible now. Families eh!
sorry to hear of your situation too and sending big hugs xx
Your situation is exactly like mine. My very close cousins have also done the same to me. I feel as if we are guilty by association even though we had NO idea what our OH's were up to. All we ask for is a bit of support from our families but there is nothing from they. Maybe one day they will be in a situation where they need our support and may realise how difficult our lives are right now. If it was the other way around and my sister needed my support I would've been the first to be there for her regardless. I don't think I can ever move past how much they have all hurt me! We hadn't been in touch with my OH's brother for 14 years, reached out to him and he's been amazing. We are as close to him now as we were all that time ago. He went to court with my OH, phoned me up to tell me the outcome and we see him as much as possible now. Families eh!
sorry to hear of your situation too and sending big hugs xx