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What are your self care strategies to get you through this time?
I'm not an exercise person so gym/yoga etc. Is not for me...but today I took my son to a cycling event and I quite fancy getting a bike for the 3 sunny days of the year we get to enjoy. I'll have to remind myself how to ride it! Or at least I may join my son's cycling sessions.
Besides that - my current go to strategies are:
Hot bubble baths
Buying a disproportionate amount of face creams and applying said creams multiple times a day to the one face I have (despite what others may think).
Enjoy the sun when it comes out - I have been known to sit in my car on the driveway simply because it was the only place with a warm sunny spot.
Scrolling through tik tok for hours (I have deactivated all other social media)
Candles - the candles I have accumulated throughout the years are finally having their moment and getting lit!
I am also currently off work. I realise I cannot be off work forever but I am just over 5 weeks on and I am in crisis mode - my job requires that I am on the ball consistently and persistently and I just can't manage that. It would currently be more harmful for me to be at work than it would help as a distraction.
I also have a small list of prescribed medication to calm me through the day and help me sleep at night.
The last 2 points have been imperative to my self care to this point. No regrets. Sometimes I like to think I can cope with anything and everything without much help and simply by "battling through"...and up to now I have sort of managed. But this time I surrendered. Something had to give.
How are you all managing?
I'm not an exercise person so gym/yoga etc. Is not for me...but today I took my son to a cycling event and I quite fancy getting a bike for the 3 sunny days of the year we get to enjoy. I'll have to remind myself how to ride it! Or at least I may join my son's cycling sessions.
Besides that - my current go to strategies are:
Hot bubble baths
Buying a disproportionate amount of face creams and applying said creams multiple times a day to the one face I have (despite what others may think).
Enjoy the sun when it comes out - I have been known to sit in my car on the driveway simply because it was the only place with a warm sunny spot.
Scrolling through tik tok for hours (I have deactivated all other social media)
Candles - the candles I have accumulated throughout the years are finally having their moment and getting lit!
I am also currently off work. I realise I cannot be off work forever but I am just over 5 weeks on and I am in crisis mode - my job requires that I am on the ball consistently and persistently and I just can't manage that. It would currently be more harmful for me to be at work than it would help as a distraction.
I also have a small list of prescribed medication to calm me through the day and help me sleep at night.
The last 2 points have been imperative to my self care to this point. No regrets. Sometimes I like to think I can cope with anything and everything without much help and simply by "battling through"...and up to now I have sort of managed. But this time I surrendered. Something had to give.
How are you all managing?
How far in are you?
I love bubble baths and the sun too. This week has been lovely for some walking in the sun.
I am guilty of TikTok scrolling. I found it is good/bad. So I set up notifications to let me know if I've scrolled too long - just so I'm more aware of how long I've spent on there.
When the knock first happened, I found rebuilding a basic routine for myself was the best self cared
Six months down the line, I enjoy reading again, I watch some tv. I play animal crossing on my games console. I find being present with my activity of self care is self care itself. Trying not to just to filler activities!
just trying to find some joy in a dark time hey!
I love bubble baths and the sun too. This week has been lovely for some walking in the sun.
I am guilty of TikTok scrolling. I found it is good/bad. So I set up notifications to let me know if I've scrolled too long - just so I'm more aware of how long I've spent on there.
When the knock first happened, I found rebuilding a basic routine for myself was the best self cared
Six months down the line, I enjoy reading again, I watch some tv. I play animal crossing on my games console. I find being present with my activity of self care is self care itself. Trying not to just to filler activities!
just trying to find some joy in a dark time hey!
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Oh my gosh.
that's all so awful to deal with and contend with. I think even thinking about self care is a big thing to do whilst still living in, what I'd imagine to be, a survival mode.
Do you have support/people to talk to in your life to vent it all out?
How long is he in custody for? I suppose it gives plenty of time to figure out what you want down the line.
sending much love.
that's all so awful to deal with and contend with. I think even thinking about self care is a big thing to do whilst still living in, what I'd imagine to be, a survival mode.
Do you have support/people to talk to in your life to vent it all out?
How long is he in custody for? I suppose it gives plenty of time to figure out what you want down the line.
sending much love.
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Loveactually I truly hope you'll be out of this initial stage of utter shock, conflict, anger, and devastation soon. It sounds like its hit you so hard as you found out when he was sentenced, rather than going through the knock and having time to process it all even just a tiny bit. Not that I'm belittling anyone's reaction to this at all - we all just deal with things differently. I'm just over 4 weeks in, and I know that this is more than likely going to drag on for a long time.
For me self care is about having a productive day, because I can distract myself a little, even just for 5 minutes. Baths don't do it for me as my brain is too busy and I find it hard to switch off. I definitely need to do more to help myself though. I need to go to bed earlier, and not use alcohol in the evenings as a coping mechanism (I'm making myself sound like I'm drinking all the time when I'm really not!) I need to get out and walk more, especially when it's sunny and dry. Talking helps, and I'm very lucky to have a few close friends who know my situation that I can talk to, but I don't want to burden them further than I already have. Plus I'm no fun to be with at the moment!
For me self care is about having a productive day, because I can distract myself a little, even just for 5 minutes. Baths don't do it for me as my brain is too busy and I find it hard to switch off. I definitely need to do more to help myself though. I need to go to bed earlier, and not use alcohol in the evenings as a coping mechanism (I'm making myself sound like I'm drinking all the time when I'm really not!) I need to get out and walk more, especially when it's sunny and dry. Talking helps, and I'm very lucky to have a few close friends who know my situation that I can talk to, but I don't want to burden them further than I already have. Plus I'm no fun to be with at the moment!
I love to read, walk in the woods or up a mountain. The outdoors walking is my happy place. I started to go to line dancing classes. A couple of hours where my only concern is where my feet should be going! and i have made many new friends.
For a long time i could not watch cop shows, but thankfully i can now watch with no problem. I watch them and like to watch films.
The trick is do everything at your own pace. For the first couple of months i did not go out and see anyone or do anything. But slowly i ventured out.
For a long time i could not watch cop shows, but thankfully i can now watch with no problem. I watch them and like to watch films.
The trick is do everything at your own pace. For the first couple of months i did not go out and see anyone or do anything. But slowly i ventured out.
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My self care really depends on the day (you know I´m only 5 weeks ish in).
Some days I get to enjoy "ok" days and can go out for a powerwalk, see friends (they don´t know the reason why my bf´s been arrested just that he has been arrested), go to my son´s football games, cook, watch series etc but the days I´m really down the rabbit hole I can´t do much at all. The dark days it doesn´t matter if the sun is out, I just don´t care (basically in my pj´s all day then).
Some days I get to enjoy "ok" days and can go out for a powerwalk, see friends (they don´t know the reason why my bf´s been arrested just that he has been arrested), go to my son´s football games, cook, watch series etc but the days I´m really down the rabbit hole I can´t do much at all. The dark days it doesn´t matter if the sun is out, I just don´t care (basically in my pj´s all day then).