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Well said partner.

I completely agree with your post. This forum has done so much for me in 2019 and unfortunately our case is still not completed so I'm sure the support will continue into 2020 from all of us. Team stop it now forum.

Partner, I hope you can find some clarity and happiness in 2020, we all deserve that. This forum is a life saver and I too wish to thank all my new non judgemental friends.

Big hug to each and everyone of you. Xx

I just want to say I come here everyday and read everyone's struggles, ups and downs. I am always wishing all of you well and hope this year brings some happy times, Love, smiles and laughs into everyone's lives.



We are all amazing to be here and I'm proud to still be here scrambling through life and I hope you are all so bloody proud of yourselves. You are all amazing.

Thank YOU and right back atcha. (think i've been watching too much American telly lately - but the sentiment is true). XXX

Happy New Year and thank you to everyone on this group, although I don't actively get involved a lot I do visit most days to read posts as a form of support. This has been my hardest Christmas/ new year to date. We are 22 months post knock and a trial has finally been organised for this year. Unfortunately the media took it upon themselves in December to share our story (not fully or accurately) but still the damage is done. I'm standing by my partner as it came to light through counselling and this horrific experience he had a porn addiction and has had this before I came on the scene but hidden it very well. Unfortunately we are in this horrible mess due to esculation of the addiction... but people don't want to hear that, talk about it or try and learn about it. It all just leaves me feeling pretty helpless. To be honest I don't know what 2020 is going to bring, I guess I should feel positive that the legal side of it will be over but it doesn't take away the pain of how my family and closest friends have reacted. It's amazing how much people you love the most can hurt you right?! My family and people like family basically want me to divorce my husband cause in their eyes it's the right thing to do, also the easy thing as then this is no longer my problem. What they don't understand is everything me and my husband have gone through, including the experiences my husband has experienced leading him to where we are today. The way family and friends (not all but ones I love dearly) have responded and treated me has been so hurtful such as just blocking me from their life by not talking to me or blocking me on social media without informing me... do they not think I'm in enough pain already? On top of that I'm still having to deal with my husbands mental health which is exhausting on its own without dealing with everyone else's emotions. To be fair i am proud of my husband who is doing every he can to address his porn addiction as I can't imagine how he must feel, the guilt of how this has impacted many people he cares about must be horrendous on top of losing friendships he believed were solid.



I do feel more awareness needs to be made about porn addiction specifically the esculation process which leads to online images of children. I totally understand everyone's strong opinions/reactions but unless we talk about it we can't stop it. As I read earlier not everyone convicted are all bad people. They have made very very poor choices and made a massive mistake, but when they recognise theur mistake then society are quick to judge rather than help. It's just so frustrating because unless it's impacts your world nobody understands.



hopefully 2020 will pick up, but it's hard to be positive when you lose people you love from something you never did. I understand people who love me are worried about my future because they care but what they don't realise is the added stress they put on my plate. Just because I don't come to the same conclusions and decisions as them shouldn't mean they disown me... it's just so hurtful behaviour.

Anyway lovely to know this group is here, so keep going every one! Just remember the harder you fall the higher you bounce. We will all get through this one way or another with many new life skills under our belt!