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Not been on for a while thought everything was going not too bad but last week my husband dumped me said he didn't love me anymore I have since found out he had downloaded apps to my iPad and deleted them one of the apps being kik which was one of them that got him in trouble the first time second time we was in court he told me he had a credit card that he didn't register and as he was living on his own he had gone back to porn and blamed personal circumstances now this time he has lied through his teeth about apps he has downloaded and I have just found out tonight that he has had sex with an 18 year old vulnerable girl before he broke up with me. He has made out he is the victim and even told her he loves her after a day. He has told her I'm abusive to him and my daughter which is not true never been violent to either. When speaking to this girl tonight my daughter even said I'm not abusive. He has made out to everyone he has done this because of me and the problems I have caused. I'm seeking help for my problems but when he left he told me he had to sell the iPad for money I have since found out he hasn't sold it and has other apps on there he shouldn't like Snapchat instagram. I feel such a mug I don't know how I'm coping tbh. There is no way back now he has lied to the end and even asked me if we could be friends I can't understand why someone would risk everything and go to the lengths he has for sexual gratification and internet gratification. I feel so stupid and wished I never taken him back the second time round. Has anyone else had a similar experience please reach out with any tips. I have signed up online to get some extra counselling
I don´t have any advice unfortunately but I´m sending lots of love your way. Be strong. xx
Lovely I would say don't dwell too much on him, I know far easier said than done when you have an emotional connection and history, but it sounds like he's done you a favour, by releasing you from his toxic behaviour. You deserve far far more than what he has given you and you must try find the strength to get through this and move forward with a better life for yourself. These are all easy things to say when it's not your own lived experience I know that, but from the outside looking in I'd say he's freed you from a life and relationship that I'm sure you would never truly be happy in. He obviously has deep rooted issues and that's his problem to work through. Good luck honey, keep reaching out to us, take time for yourself, surround yourself with love - the people who actually genuinely care for you. Xxx
sorry you are going through all of this but I think he's done you a favour in the long term he doesn't sound like a nice person and he will put his troubles onto someone else unfortunately, look at it as a blessing , he's used your equipment to do illegal stuff which could have landed you in trouble he sou ds very selfish, take a massive deep breath seek some support if required but keep your head up and don't allow yourself to feel blamed for his actions sending a hug x
Hi, our person is my son so a slightly different case, however I was in a situation almost 20 years ago with my then husband. I was repeatedly lied to and cheated on. My bills were binned or hidden from me, money withdrawn from my credit card, affairs and endless lies about anything and everything. I began to go crazy and I really believe running me into the ground was his intention. So when I realised I wanted something different I started to realise what I could do without him. I was tired of him having and doing everything while I had and did nothing. So little by little I started to look forward to life with me and my children, without the lies, sneaking around and physical and mental torment. I still had an emotional attachment, however I began to extend the time I didn't contact or respond to him. Hours soon turned into days and days into weeks. Eventually I didn't miss him or care who he was with.
I even laugh now at the time he called in a somewhat state telling me that it wasn't funny I had cut the fronts off his football boots !
Take care of yourself xx
I even laugh now at the time he called in a somewhat state telling me that it wasn't funny I had cut the fronts off his football boots !
Take care of yourself xx
Thank you everyone you are soo right I just find it so hard to accept he has slept with someone barely legal when he says he is not attracted to children. The shock that he actually cheated threw me but today I got up took some positive steps and a bit of self care and hopefully in a few days I will be okay again xx
Lying seems to be a common factor in many cases. Destroyed the trust in my marriage. I had to end it.
Yes you would think they should just come clean as it's not as if we don't know what they've done in the past but literally everything has to be a lie. Just cowards