Here is my story- children services making my life a nightmare
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Just wondering if anybody has been in the same situation as me:
My husband was arrested in August 2023 for an online offence. It was a conversation about child sex abuse, there were no images or anything else involved. He was charged with obscene publication 1959 and is on probation until September. He wasn't asked to sign SOR and there is no SHPO.
What can I do about Children Services? When our 8 year old was a CIN between June and August last year, they did no safety planning with me, they didn't even tell me what he did and they didn't explain what supervised contact meant. It then when to conference and she was put on a CPP, I was then told the day after the full extent of the conversation. There has been no progression with the CPP since August last year. All it has on it is that he is not allowed to live at home, I have to supervise contact and work is ongoing with probabtion. The issues I have are are that: our daughter is really upset as she misses her dad, I'm losing income because I'm having to take unpaid leave to cover the school holidays. It's affecting my ability to do my job because I have to take her to school and pick her up. He was seeing a counsellor through StopSo for several months and children services are not taking the report into account (probably because it goes in his favour). We have submitted two complaints about how this case has been handled which they won't respond to. The school nurse has closed the case from their end. At the conference review in November, the chair said keeping her on the plan any longer than necessary would be a breach of her human rights. After the latest core group meeting I get the impression staying on a CPP will be the case. It's really upsetting and frustrating as we have done everything they have asked us to. As this has been ongoing since August 2023, my employer will not give me anytime off to do what children services demand. Work will let me attend the monthly core group meeting and conferences and nothing else. Has anybody else been in a similar situation or can offer some advice? Thank you!
My husband was arrested in August 2023 for an online offence. It was a conversation about child sex abuse, there were no images or anything else involved. He was charged with obscene publication 1959 and is on probation until September. He wasn't asked to sign SOR and there is no SHPO.
What can I do about Children Services? When our 8 year old was a CIN between June and August last year, they did no safety planning with me, they didn't even tell me what he did and they didn't explain what supervised contact meant. It then when to conference and she was put on a CPP, I was then told the day after the full extent of the conversation. There has been no progression with the CPP since August last year. All it has on it is that he is not allowed to live at home, I have to supervise contact and work is ongoing with probabtion. The issues I have are are that: our daughter is really upset as she misses her dad, I'm losing income because I'm having to take unpaid leave to cover the school holidays. It's affecting my ability to do my job because I have to take her to school and pick her up. He was seeing a counsellor through StopSo for several months and children services are not taking the report into account (probably because it goes in his favour). We have submitted two complaints about how this case has been handled which they won't respond to. The school nurse has closed the case from their end. At the conference review in November, the chair said keeping her on the plan any longer than necessary would be a breach of her human rights. After the latest core group meeting I get the impression staying on a CPP will be the case. It's really upsetting and frustrating as we have done everything they have asked us to. As this has been ongoing since August 2023, my employer will not give me anytime off to do what children services demand. Work will let me attend the monthly core group meeting and conferences and nothing else. Has anybody else been in a similar situation or can offer some advice? Thank you!
Hi, I don't have any advice but I wanted to say that it's so incredibly frustrating that it's usually us Mum's who end up picking up the pieces and it's us whose lives get upended. In my experience with children's services, you simply cannot fight them. It never ends well. Have you got any support from family? Could you get a childminder to do the school run? X
Thanks for replying. It is definitely the mums who get forgtten about and have to sort the mess out. There is no one who can help with school drop off's etc as everyone works and has their own children to take to schoool. On the plus side I have found a solicitor who is willing to help and said she will even come to the next conference review, she has already given me some good advice. It took a lot of ringing around to find one who was willing to get involved.
That's really good. All the best to you.
Hi,
I'm happy for you to private message me if you'd like. My partner was sentenced in 2021 and we are just in the process of starting a phased return to living together and unsupervised contact. It's a lot of work and I won't say it's easy but it's doable. I was fortunate that my daughter has never been on any plan other than a self written safety plan.
Love and support sent xxx
I'm happy for you to private message me if you'd like. My partner was sentenced in 2021 and we are just in the process of starting a phased return to living together and unsupervised contact. It's a lot of work and I won't say it's easy but it's doable. I was fortunate that my daughter has never been on any plan other than a self written safety plan.
Love and support sent xxx