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SS Involvement After SHPO

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FoggyFuture

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March 2025

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Posted Mon March 17, 2025 9:12am
Edited Sun March 23, 2025 5:21pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1149 posts

Hi,

as you are aware of previous ss involvement you will have to declare at the stage of your first appointment with a midwife. Ss can be involved and put restrictions in place around contact while they assess your capability to protect xxx

Posted Mon March 17, 2025 11:11amReport post

T2021

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December 2020

159 posts

I believe they would be involved yes, I have been told if my children have children, there will be a referral to them.

Posted Mon March 17, 2025 9:58pmReport post

FoggyFuture

Member since
March 2025

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Hi,

Thanks for the information! Can I ask what the SS involvement may be? Will they come in all guns blazing trying to take any children out of ours/their parents custody, or is there an opportunity to have our side heard and prove to them he isn't a risk? (He'll have completed his SHPO and time on the SOR by then).

I know it's all a few years away but I just want to know where I stand!

Posted Tue March 18, 2025 5:22pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1149 posts

It's complete pot luck to be honest. Completing time on sor and SHPO doesn't make someone low risk in the eyes of ss so I think it would be wise to spend this time researching and making sure you're up on your safeguarding knowledge. If you could have discussions with his offender manager throughout his time on sor about their views on if you were to have children that would probably be better than just waiting until everything is finished and then getting pregnant xxx

Posted Tue March 18, 2025 5:28pmReport post

Holdingthegrenade

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June 2024

190 posts

As T2021 has stated; it's likely they'll still be involved. They've told me that even if no charges are brought or bail restrictions are removed they're still "recommending" we keep them in place until my child is 18. They've even said if/when my child has children of their own if their Dad is still in their life.....a referral will be made.

That crushed me. I've had a real rough journey with social services and it's almost broken me; it's felt worse than the actual news of the offences, as my parenting and ability to protect my child was in question. Which as a loving protective parent who has decent knowledge of safeguarding and very strong feelings about these offences was hard. It breaks my heart that my own child will have to go through that scrutiny when they haven't done anything wrong; purely because of something their dad did.

Some people on here have managed to make it work; but for me it was the beginning of the end of our relationship. I had to put my child first, myself next. He was selfish in committing the offences and made the decision to risk everything; which on a basic level shows me he didn't care about us enough; and that we weren't enough to stop him thinking what it would do to us. He put a porn habit before his llving happy family and threw away all our futures as well as self destructing his own. That's not someone I can be with.

Posted Tue March 18, 2025 11:19pmReport post

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