What does life actually look like after sentencing
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Woken up this morning wondering what my life will look like after sentencing next Thursday. I'd be keen to hear your stories of how you're managing. I told my best friend a couple of days ago and I realised that her wedding next year will have children there, my OH/my life partner won't be able to go...family gatherings my sister in law and brother won't want him there, I'll never be able to move in with my OH - certainly whilst my kids are young, the restrictions on life feel very overwhelming this morning. He'll likely get 7 years on SOR. If anyone has any positive stories, I really need them' x
Has he had sight of a draft SHPO? This will be an important part of how life looks moving forward. Sometimes they try to put contact restrictions but his solicitor should push back on those so he has online restrictions only inline with his offences.
If his shpo is online only then he can attend social events and gatherings providing that those attending who know don't cause a problem. My partner doesn't attend my family events but he is welcome at events his family have.
Again regarding him being able to live with you if social services and their dad are agreeable then he could. I'm currently waiting on paperwork from ss confirming case closed for him to move in. Different situation as my adult children are from a previous relationship and youngest is his but it is achievable.
Life does get better but it is hard work and a lot of hoops to jump through xxx
If his shpo is online only then he can attend social events and gatherings providing that those attending who know don't cause a problem. My partner doesn't attend my family events but he is welcome at events his family have.
Again regarding him being able to live with you if social services and their dad are agreeable then he could. I'm currently waiting on paperwork from ss confirming case closed for him to move in. Different situation as my adult children are from a previous relationship and youngest is his but it is achievable.
Life does get better but it is hard work and a lot of hoops to jump through xxx
Yes the SHPO will be only for online activity so fingers crossed! That's reassuring to know, I thought we'd have to inform anyone with children at social or family gatherings? X
As long as his SHPO is online only you do not have to disclose. The difficulty can come in with probation or visor putting additional restrictions on him if he tells them of upcoming events. At his first meeting with probation she seemed to think that approval from herself and ss was needed but this actually wasn't true as his SHPO is online restrictions only. I emailed visor to make sure my understanding was correct and he has no additional restrictions xxx
My husband didn't get shpo so not everyone gets one . He is on register for 5 years but he is not allowed any unsupervised contact with anyone under 18 and our kids are grown up so it's been ok . Just a bit hard when we have granddaughter sleeping over we have to inform his risk manager . The but that's really getting me is the fact he has to go to police station to tell them we are going away for two nights in England ! REALLY
Molly dog, who has imposed these restrictions on him? xxx
Wouldn't the unsupervised contact have to be in the SHPO?
My son has a 10 year SHPO with the most restrictive restriction being 'no unsupervised contact with anyone under the age of 18 unless agreed by SS and the parents'. Because he lives with us we provide supervision between him and his children and he takes his children to all the type of activities that any other children enjoy.
My son joins in family events with his cousins and their children, has attended a family wedding where there were children and has enjoyed family weekends away.
We remain aware and respectful of his restrictions without it dictating our lives and his children enjoy fun days out and family events with him.
My son joins in family events with his cousins and their children, has attended a family wedding where there were children and has enjoyed family weekends away.
We remain aware and respectful of his restrictions without it dictating our lives and his children enjoy fun days out and family events with him.