Name & address change
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Hello to all,
Unfortunately a new member here tonight, following 'the knock' 3 weeks ago for IIOC.
I have spent a lot of time recently reading so many posts, which have provided much needed information. Without all your questions & answers I would be very much in the dark.
I wonder if I might ask for one bit of advice from anyone who can help?
Although early days, I have decided to support my OH and look to try and rebuild our lives together when this is over.
My OH 'the person' and I both have very uncommon surnames, which are different and currently live at the same address. My main concern at this moment is just to plan ahead and find solutions to limit the damage in having his name and address published, when charged in the future and also court appearances. Apart from the obvious shame, I also have a job which would potentially be detrimental if anyone found out what has happened.
My thought is to change his name by deed poll and he has offered to move away until such time the court appearances have been made and dealt with in the hope that his new name and address would be reported in any press. Obviously he understands the need to inform the police etc. of all changes. He is not trying to evade dealing with the situation, but trying to spare me and his siblings.
Has anyone any experience of changing name at an early stage, prior to charges and moving away? His duty solicitor seemed to caution the move, but I can't see what he/we have to lose? Although one thought would be that it might look better in court if he lived with me and I could offer support.
Any help at all would be very much appreciated.
Unfortunately a new member here tonight, following 'the knock' 3 weeks ago for IIOC.
I have spent a lot of time recently reading so many posts, which have provided much needed information. Without all your questions & answers I would be very much in the dark.
I wonder if I might ask for one bit of advice from anyone who can help?
Although early days, I have decided to support my OH and look to try and rebuild our lives together when this is over.
My OH 'the person' and I both have very uncommon surnames, which are different and currently live at the same address. My main concern at this moment is just to plan ahead and find solutions to limit the damage in having his name and address published, when charged in the future and also court appearances. Apart from the obvious shame, I also have a job which would potentially be detrimental if anyone found out what has happened.
My thought is to change his name by deed poll and he has offered to move away until such time the court appearances have been made and dealt with in the hope that his new name and address would be reported in any press. Obviously he understands the need to inform the police etc. of all changes. He is not trying to evade dealing with the situation, but trying to spare me and his siblings.
Has anyone any experience of changing name at an early stage, prior to charges and moving away? His duty solicitor seemed to caution the move, but I can't see what he/we have to lose? Although one thought would be that it might look better in court if he lived with me and I could offer support.
Any help at all would be very much appreciated.
Hi, firstly I'd like to say hello and that I'm sorry you've found yourself joining us on here. You'll find some wonderful people here on the forum with a wealth of knowledge and experience.
I'm not able to help you with your question but didn't want to just scroll on by without commenting and letting you know that we're here for you.
I'm not able to help you with your question but didn't want to just scroll on by without commenting and letting you know that we're here for you.
I think alot depends on the address he was living at the time and where he was arrested.
Why did the solicitor think it was not a good move? LFF maybe able to help and Unlock are very good.
Why did the solicitor think it was not a good move? LFF maybe able to help and Unlock are very good.
Thank you Ocean & Webb89.
The solicitor did not say in their email why they didn't like the idea.
I am hoping someone who has experience may still see me message and get in touch.
Thanks again.
The solicitor did not say in their email why they didn't like the idea.
I am hoping someone who has experience may still see me message and get in touch.
Thanks again.
Personally I wouldn't be too hasty - to move house and change names both a big step to take so early in your journey, though can understand your fears.
Weve got a very different surname, infact I've never come across another....... it'd be a hard one for someone to randomly spell. We still live at the same address too - It's not been a problem for us.
It's a thing you might want to consider in the future but I wouldn't rush into it.
Weve got a very different surname, infact I've never come across another....... it'd be a hard one for someone to randomly spell. We still live at the same address too - It's not been a problem for us.
It's a thing you might want to consider in the future but I wouldn't rush into it.
I have had mixed experience with this.
OH moved out (we have kids) and changed name.
New address was reported rather than family home but both names were also in the press.
happy to DM about this if you'd like more detail
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OH moved out (we have kids) and changed name.
New address was reported rather than family home but both names were also in the press.
happy to DM about this if you'd like more detail
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Hi, I'm sorry you find yourself here.
A few things spring to mind. Regarding your job, you need to check your contract to see if you need to disclose the arrest now. Regarding changing the address, chances are that when it gets reported and/or put on the Police social media, they will print the photo and the address where they were arrested. Anything that is mentioned in court can be reported. Chances are the Judge will question the name change so the reporters etc could pick it up from there and print it. Regarding the address again, they often report the arrest address and the current address. This is to ensure the public have the opportunity to come forward with any further relevant information. I just wouldn't want you to go through changing names and addresses for it all to come out anyway. I wish you all the best.
A few things spring to mind. Regarding your job, you need to check your contract to see if you need to disclose the arrest now. Regarding changing the address, chances are that when it gets reported and/or put on the Police social media, they will print the photo and the address where they were arrested. Anything that is mentioned in court can be reported. Chances are the Judge will question the name change so the reporters etc could pick it up from there and print it. Regarding the address again, they often report the arrest address and the current address. This is to ensure the public have the opportunity to come forward with any further relevant information. I just wouldn't want you to go through changing names and addresses for it all to come out anyway. I wish you all the best.
Thank you Smile through tears.
My concern is that my OH has a surname that is easily identifiable where we live due to places he has worked, so the worry is if it was reported by the media along with the arrest address it is likely what he has done would become known in the area.
If my OH were to change his name by deed poll and move to a different address further away then we were hoping any court appearance would be in a different county and therefore the media reports too.
I am really pleased to hear that you have had no problems. May I ask if your situation was reported in the press?
My concern is that my OH has a surname that is easily identifiable where we live due to places he has worked, so the worry is if it was reported by the media along with the arrest address it is likely what he has done would become known in the area.
If my OH were to change his name by deed poll and move to a different address further away then we were hoping any court appearance would be in a different county and therefore the media reports too.
I am really pleased to hear that you have had no problems. May I ask if your situation was reported in the press?
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my question LittleRobin3.
It won't be in my contract as my job isn't direct customer facing.
In the news reports I have read, I haven't personally seen more than one address reported, however it may be that most people don't change their name and address?
On a side note, I have read some of your posts and am sorry you find yourself here again. And I am sorry we are all here.
I understand what you mean about changing everything but I am concerned that it is something we could have tried and if we don't pursue this option it will be a regret later down the line.
I wish you all the best too.
It won't be in my contract as my job isn't direct customer facing.
In the news reports I have read, I haven't personally seen more than one address reported, however it may be that most people don't change their name and address?
On a side note, I have read some of your posts and am sorry you find yourself here again. And I am sorry we are all here.
I understand what you mean about changing everything but I am concerned that it is something we could have tried and if we don't pursue this option it will be a regret later down the line.
I wish you all the best too.