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Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

Yesterday felt like a better day until today!

The local paper had their say!

why when you try to hold the family up and keep a smile on and you are alone does it all break!

I'm in pieces!

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 7:28pmReport post

Lifeisover

Member since
January 2025

127 posts

You poor poor thing I'm so sorry

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 7:35pm
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Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

358 posts

It's so hard this part I am so sorry to read this keep you and yours close for the next wee while sending love x

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 7:50pmReport post

Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

People saying he should hang himself!

The horrific comments are unreal!

I have been home three hours and only just realised I'm still wearing my coat.

I really do hope things improve when the people leave their keyboards x

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 9:10pmReport post

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

358 posts

I came off social media immediately if I didn't know the comments I couldn't worry about them I don't think I will ever go back on it, it's toxic please try and stay off it

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 9:14pmReport post

Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

I'm not on there and have purposely stayed away from the media today. But others just want to call him and let him know what's there! Being unable to take that pain away is awful x

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 9:26pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

908 posts

I'm so sorry to read this. I chose not to read my sons case on social media or in our local paper so remain oblivious to the comments. People who choose to write nasty comments on social media are uneducated in the facts and truth.

I know it seems like a real set back but you'll get through this. I viewed it as yet another fear of ours to come true and therefore one less thing we still had to worry about happening.

Hold your head up high and tell your son to do the same. He's no longer the person he was when he made bad choices and is now someone who's admitted his wrong doing and is trying to move forward in his life.

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 9:30pmReport post

Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

I am normally asleep at this time, however feel like I'm keeping a watch over him, like when he was a baby.

I gave him a hug tonight and could tell it was something that meant something.

You are right, he has changed but to me he is always more than this awful situation and despite the tears I've shed today and probably tomorrow I will always be there for him x

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 10:30pmReport post

Poppet

Member since
February 2025

94 posts

I'm so very sorry that this is yet another aspect of this awful situation you're going through. The press are truly despicable for reporting on these cases, as are the keyboard warriors who'd rather spend their time typing vile things than actually reading about why our people do these things and learning that it's not black and white.

I have to say I'm terrified of what my husband has done getting out. As far as he's told me he's downloaded and viewed IIOC, and then deleted the files. But that won't stop the public from going for him online and maybe in person, if it gets reported. I have a large social media following and a business that relies on that, so I can't come off it, or I would.

Anyway, I hope the ignorant comments die down for you soon, and it becomes old news quickly. Stay strong xx

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 11:25pmReport post

Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

Thank you.

I really hope it does too.

xx

Posted Wed March 19, 2025 11:55pmReport post

Starr

Member since
December 2024

101 posts

Oh Lost, I'm so sorry.

It's probably all of our worst fears isn't it?

No real advice, other than try to ignore/avoid as much as you all can.

The people who make those horrible comments reveal so much about themselves. Leave them to it.

Keep posting. you're supported by an amazing group of kind, wise, compassionate women here, all walking hand in hand with you along this bloody awful path. You're not alone x

Posted Thu March 20, 2025 1:16amReport post

Lost in the dark

Member since
November 2024

61 posts

Thank you xx

today has be a spoonful better than yesterday.

a family member has reported comments regarding her family to the police and they are dealing with it. I don't think they are concerned about those regarding my son or my family!

I have been in full fight or flight mode today. Been to work and know while difficult it's the best place for me to be. The piece of normal.

xx

Posted Thu March 20, 2025 7:47pmReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

615 posts

This is the worse aspect. I'm going through all this for a second time and I'm paralysed by fear over this case going on social media etc again, as it did the first time. My life is in complete limbo. I feel I can't begin to rebuild until I know if it's going to be in the press again. I'm convinced it will and I can't wait for it to be over. This is the start of some sort of recovery for you, hopefully. X

Posted Fri March 21, 2025 10:33amReport post

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