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Hi All,
Just need an outlet as my brain is in frazzle mode at the moment. My ex and LG dad, got the phone call yesterday to say that they are charging him and he has an appointment next Wednesday to speak about going to court.
He said all the OIC said to him is he is being charged with Making and she is going to go through everything with him next week.
He had a severe mental breakdown after this call. Started asking me loads of questions I don't know the answers to so I told him his best bet is to speak to his solicitor as she probably knows the answers to his questions as she deals with this daily as she is a sexual offence solicitor.
Anyways long story short, he tried to call her, kept missing each other due to dodgy signal issues and now got to speak to her today.
However now my brains wizzing and I just feel very alone as I don't really have much support and also bringing up our 1 year old alone is hard with all this other stuff going on too.
I am now just worried bout the future which was 1 of my major worries anyway but I was able to push this out of my head previously, but it's back again.
He said it was for all categories. However this is his 1st offence, and he is seeing a counsellor who specialises in these kind if things he is also on a lot of mental health meds and he is on suicide watch as he has tried to before.
Anyway sorry for spreading my brain all over here. I'm just looking for any one with any positives or anything that can lesson my brain feeling like it wants to pop. I'm just worried about all thus affecting my LG and her non existent relationship with him due to what he has done. Just feeling super stressed and alone, this has been the longest 2 years of my life and super stressful. So thanks for reading if you got this far x
Just need an outlet as my brain is in frazzle mode at the moment. My ex and LG dad, got the phone call yesterday to say that they are charging him and he has an appointment next Wednesday to speak about going to court.
He said all the OIC said to him is he is being charged with Making and she is going to go through everything with him next week.
He had a severe mental breakdown after this call. Started asking me loads of questions I don't know the answers to so I told him his best bet is to speak to his solicitor as she probably knows the answers to his questions as she deals with this daily as she is a sexual offence solicitor.
Anyways long story short, he tried to call her, kept missing each other due to dodgy signal issues and now got to speak to her today.
However now my brains wizzing and I just feel very alone as I don't really have much support and also bringing up our 1 year old alone is hard with all this other stuff going on too.
I am now just worried bout the future which was 1 of my major worries anyway but I was able to push this out of my head previously, but it's back again.
He said it was for all categories. However this is his 1st offence, and he is seeing a counsellor who specialises in these kind if things he is also on a lot of mental health meds and he is on suicide watch as he has tried to before.
Anyway sorry for spreading my brain all over here. I'm just looking for any one with any positives or anything that can lesson my brain feeling like it wants to pop. I'm just worried about all thus affecting my LG and her non existent relationship with him due to what he has done. Just feeling super stressed and alone, this has been the longest 2 years of my life and super stressful. So thanks for reading if you got this far x
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Moonbeam big hugs to you. I think you should definitely call the helpline. They're fantastic for giving advice and just listening if that's what you need. Xx
Thanks Poppet, I have spoken to them before and went round in a massive circle. Have had a couple of people reach out to me and haven't felt alone from it. So as much as it sucks, there isn't much that can happen at the moment. Just another waiting game to find out more information.
Thanks you for always responding lovely x
Thanks you for always responding lovely x
If it's his first offence, depending on how many images there were, he could get a suspended sentence (I'm not a solicitor just going by most outcomes).
Thanks for your response Suziesweet.
Yes it's his first offence and he was told that it was 11a, 6b and 16c, all from 2023.
I have been reading a lot of about suspended sentences too. However I guess we never will know until he goes court on 27th April. I will update when I know more.
Thanks for reaspone though.
It's become impossible for him not to talk to me about every day, however he has been speaking to his therapist too
I think it all the unknown that's freaking him out.
There is only so much reassurance you can give a person.
Yes it's his first offence and he was told that it was 11a, 6b and 16c, all from 2023.
I have been reading a lot of about suspended sentences too. However I guess we never will know until he goes court on 27th April. I will update when I know more.
Thanks for reaspone though.
It's become impossible for him not to talk to me about every day, however he has been speaking to his therapist too
I think it all the unknown that's freaking him out.
There is only so much reassurance you can give a person.
Good Morning All,
Just thought id update!!
Yesterday was court day at magistrates.
Basic update is. He is going to crown court. He is still under plee of no comment for what's happened so it went to crown court. Apprantly they are more supportive of justice. Idk
He still isn't allowed to see pur LG which seems to be the biggest thing that they are all fighting for at the moment he still isn't allowed contact with her via any means, even though they have said that none of this is to do with her and SS say they see no reason for full supervised contact.
The solicitor said its unfair and unjust so an application to the courts has been put in to request that to be removed from his conditions (bail), but he has now been told that will take 3/4 weeks as its got to go to the OIC, who already said she didn't want him to see her or have any contact with her. She is 1yrs old for context.
So nothings changed and his day at crown is on 9th June.
What a stress filled day and yet another wait.
Sorry haven't been in touch a while, been just trying my best to get on with every day which is defo easier said than done. Hope your doing ok.
I just want everything over and done with so that I can at least try and get on with my life and know where I stand too. Just feel like I am on a never ending TV drama at the moment.
Just thought id update!!
Yesterday was court day at magistrates.
Basic update is. He is going to crown court. He is still under plee of no comment for what's happened so it went to crown court. Apprantly they are more supportive of justice. Idk
He still isn't allowed to see pur LG which seems to be the biggest thing that they are all fighting for at the moment he still isn't allowed contact with her via any means, even though they have said that none of this is to do with her and SS say they see no reason for full supervised contact.
The solicitor said its unfair and unjust so an application to the courts has been put in to request that to be removed from his conditions (bail), but he has now been told that will take 3/4 weeks as its got to go to the OIC, who already said she didn't want him to see her or have any contact with her. She is 1yrs old for context.
So nothings changed and his day at crown is on 9th June.
What a stress filled day and yet another wait.
Sorry haven't been in touch a while, been just trying my best to get on with every day which is defo easier said than done. Hope your doing ok.
I just want everything over and done with so that I can at least try and get on with my life and know where I stand too. Just feel like I am on a never ending TV drama at the moment.