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I've got to be honest - I've avoided the forum for a while as I was driving myself crazy trying to make sense of what my now ex-husband has done. I wanted to focus on my recovery and rebuilding my life. I was diagnosed with PTSD and have been in therapy since the first knock in February. There were three separate arrests as more evidence came to light.
Thankfully the symptoms started to disappear recently, and I was feeling more positive about the future. That was until yesterday when my ex was advised of the charges - almost a year after the first knock. They include attempting to arrange or facilitate a child sex offence and possession of a paedophile manual - he was in communication with an undercover police officer in a chat room. He's also been charged with possessing and taking indecent images (not many but categories A, B and C), most of which relate to a two-affair he had with a 16 year 10 years ago.
I can't see how he won't get a custodial sentence and there will no doubt be media coverage. I really don't care about him anymore - and believe he deserves the punishment he gets - but I do care about me and my family.
Has anyone else's partners faced similar charges? Has anyone got any idea of the kind of sentence my ex will get?
I'm terrified all over again and trying to get as much knowledge as I can to help me prepare for the outcome
Thank you.
J x
Thankfully the symptoms started to disappear recently, and I was feeling more positive about the future. That was until yesterday when my ex was advised of the charges - almost a year after the first knock. They include attempting to arrange or facilitate a child sex offence and possession of a paedophile manual - he was in communication with an undercover police officer in a chat room. He's also been charged with possessing and taking indecent images (not many but categories A, B and C), most of which relate to a two-affair he had with a 16 year 10 years ago.
I can't see how he won't get a custodial sentence and there will no doubt be media coverage. I really don't care about him anymore - and believe he deserves the punishment he gets - but I do care about me and my family.
Has anyone else's partners faced similar charges? Has anyone got any idea of the kind of sentence my ex will get?
I'm terrified all over again and trying to get as much knowledge as I can to help me prepare for the outcome
Thank you.
J x
I forgot to say that he was arrested and investigated for indecent images in 2011 and received a caution and was put on the SOR for two years. I've been told that this will form part of the case against him.
J x
J x
Hey Josephine,
I'm at the same stage as you. My husband has just been charged with making pictures but he didn't make them he downloaded all of the and possession of a mixture of cat a b and c. Im in the same thought process as you wanting to know the likely outcome. I stuck by my husband because he showed/shows remorse for all the issues and has started SAA meetings and the online courses. He has also asked the doctor for therapy too. We are here for support.
I'm at the same stage as you. My husband has just been charged with making pictures but he didn't make them he downloaded all of the and possession of a mixture of cat a b and c. Im in the same thought process as you wanting to know the likely outcome. I stuck by my husband because he showed/shows remorse for all the issues and has started SAA meetings and the online courses. He has also asked the doctor for therapy too. We are here for support.
Thank you for replying.
I stuck by him in 2011 and truly believed he had recovered but sadly not, in spite of doing the Inform course, therapy and SAA. I won't give him another chance. I think he has such deep-rooted issues that he may never change.
He has now admitted to a 20-year addiction to chat rooms that took him deeper and deeper into ever-more sickening behaviour.
God knows how I'll ever trust someone again.
J x
I stuck by him in 2011 and truly believed he had recovered but sadly not, in spite of doing the Inform course, therapy and SAA. I won't give him another chance. I think he has such deep-rooted issues that he may never change.
He has now admitted to a 20-year addiction to chat rooms that took him deeper and deeper into ever-more sickening behaviour.
God knows how I'll ever trust someone again.
J x
Josephine,
If it happens again then I'll be rethinking, although I'm not sure he will be reoffending as he is so remorseful. Wow so deep rooted but at least he's admitted to it again. You are strong, you've got through this process once you can do it again.
If it happens again then I'll be rethinking, although I'm not sure he will be reoffending as he is so remorseful. Wow so deep rooted but at least he's admitted to it again. You are strong, you've got through this process once you can do it again.
Hi Josephine - how awful that this torture goes on for SO LONG: I feel for you (especially since I'm only coming up to 6 weeks post knock and we have long wait in limbo coming up). Would it be worth getting in touch with the helpline to find out more - they seem so knowledgeable about all the ramifications and might know what sentence your ex can expect?
I will. Thank you. Don't know why I didn't think of that!
J x
J x