Concerned about comments from PO
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My daughter is on a CPP and has been since August last year. I've got a major issue with the updates that the PO provides to the SW as part of the monthly core group meetings. The PO is emailing the SW with comments in relation to our marriage, eg I'm partly to blame for his offence and I'm cold and he puts some of the blame on me and his mum. The PO told the SW that he is not responsible for marriage counselling and will the SW be doing an assessment on our marriage.
This information is not relevant at all to the CPP but is being documented in the monthly core group meetings. It comes across to me that this is a private email conversation between the PO and SW that shouldn't be documented in the monthly core group minutes. I am wondering if this is a confidentiality breach, other stuff has been included aswell that I consider extremely private info about our marriage. I'm not happy that things like this are being documented that anybody can see who looks at my child's case with SS. Anybody been in a similar situation?
This information is not relevant at all to the CPP but is being documented in the monthly core group meetings. It comes across to me that this is a private email conversation between the PO and SW that shouldn't be documented in the monthly core group minutes. I am wondering if this is a confidentiality breach, other stuff has been included aswell that I consider extremely private info about our marriage. I'm not happy that things like this are being documented that anybody can see who looks at my child's case with SS. Anybody been in a similar situation?
It sounds like the PO's concern & reason for sharing may be worry that your OH isn't taking full responsibility? I.e. the PO thinks - fairly or unfairly! - that your OH is trying to shift blame onto you or onto aspects of his marriage or whatever? In which case it would be appropriate for the PO to raise this with your SW as it would be seen as raising OH's risk level? That's just a guess from reading your post though!
But if I've read you wrong, and its actually the PO making those comments blaming you etc, they were behaving really shockingly. No one is responsible but the offender.
But if I've read you wrong, and its actually the PO making those comments blaming you etc, they were behaving really shockingly. No one is responsible but the offender.
Upset - after our first CP conference where things were shared which should have only been shared privately between a small group of professionals, if at all, and certainly not the variety of people who were in the room, the chairperson made a speech before each subsequent meeting to say things could only be shared on a 'need to know' basis. I would say that whatever the reasons behind this interest in your marriage, only people who 'needed to know' in order to protect your children should hear it. And there should be a valid reason why they needed to know so perhaps you could ask for a written explanation why plus assurance that it wouldn't be shared at meetings, core meetings too.
Thanks for the responses. It is just really annoying that these comments from the PO were not even verbally mentioned in the core group meeting. It's obviously an email from the PO to SW talking about really private things in my marriage and I'm not happy that it's been documented and people from my daughters school can see it for example. I'm going to speak to my solicitor about whether it's a breach of confidentiality as my OH and myself have not given permission for this information to be documented. I've put in a complaint about the PO as he openly said in the core group meeting that my OH has a sexual interest in children which isn't even true. OH has submittted an 18 page complaint about PO's conduct and behaviour as well. Just feel like the professionals are making my life as difficult as possible at the minute.
Just thought I would give an update on this. PO has been suspended from being my OH's PO as the line manager is quite concerned about our complaint. PO has been making personal comments about my OH in his minutes that we had accessed by doing a SAR. He has been telling SS one story and us a different story.