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Morning reaching out to you as I'm in a similar position but can't say too much on the matter atm. I felt like you described and I'm still thinking how? why? I just don't understand. My now ex went onto chat and dating sites and met up with an 18 year old and had sex with her. Still can't comprehend it. How are you keeping xx

Hi lovely, I couldn't read and run.



Just wanted to send some massive hugs to you and your babies.



I've no advice for a 2nd time. But iam thinking of you all xxx

I am so sorry to read this your only focus is you and your beautiful kids, you deserve so much better xx

Hi, my person reoffended 3 years ago so I know how utterly appalling it is. He was sent to prison the first time for IIOC so I'm fully expecting a custodial sentence which is due in a few weeks time. I really feel for you. Going through this once is one thing but for our person to put us through it again is incomprehensible. X

Hi there,

I just wanted to reach out and send hugs, and peace.

You are living all of our worst nightmares and I can't even imagine what you must be feeling / thinking / wishing.

You are in my thoughts.

Ashes x

What is the allegation exactly? It's been 8 years since my ex first offended. Not once have the Police spoken to him under caution/arrest or not for something that's happened in the locality that they think might have involved a sex offender. I'm not saying your person is lying, but if it were me, I would proceed with my eyes wide open. I'll never allow myself to be in this position for a third time, that much I do know. Sending you lots of love and hugs. X

My ex re offended 2 years ago.

He'd been back on KIK. Probation & mosovo all missed the review offending. It was me that discovered it.

Just make sure you look after yourself and yoyr little ones x

So sorry that you're here a second time. Once in a lifetime is bad enough. I can't believe after dragging their families through this they're not sticking to the rules to the letter and not doing anything to risking losing their family after what it's taken to keep them upto this point. My heart aches for you.

Lily rose, my ex was the same.

It's extremely frustrating. We should never be in this position in the first place, but for a second time it's extremely had to feel anything other than betrayal, anger & disappointment.

Whatever you choose to do, just please make sure you prioritise yourself first. We're all here to support you too (although I don't tend to be on here as much anymore.)

You're not alone. X

Lilyrose my oh phone was checked by the police on the 4 visits they made in the year of conviction they checked his mac once and he said probation only checked the phone once and that was a joint meeting with the police, probation never asked to even see his phone, he was probably there maybe no more than 12 times in the year as he was very low risk his appts were wide spread quite quickly

Lilyrose

That's the biggest problem of all, being able to trust again, not just the person but others also. My psychiatrist told me in a recent appointment that it was my own fault that I'm in this situation again because I let him back into my life. Easy for him to say. My person is my sons Dad and he loves him. X

I'm so sorry to hear that your OH has re-offended again my route OH we offended after 10 years and literally within weeks of coming off the register. I know it's an awful shock and really hard to absorb. That was 14 months ago and I'm still trying to get my head around that he's already done it and why he would redo it Unfortunately They do reoffend and it is very very hard to come to terms with and to work out how and where you go from here
let's hope your OH is telling the truth and they won't find anything on his devices. Sending you love xxxxx