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Why do I have more bad days than good 16months into the process

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D1286

Member since
November 2019

62 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 6:57amReport post

Morning, we are 16months post knock he's just been charged and got court a week Thursday. I would of thought I'd be having more good days than bad days by now. Is this normal or am I just a strange idiot.

Thistle

Member since
January 2019

31 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 10:02amReport post

I just wanted to assure you that what your feeling is completely normal.

SallyBlue

Member since
March 2019

252 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 12:45pmReport post

Some days are good, some bad and some just damn awful. Just remember you are nearly there, almost time to plan the rest of your life. Remember to message me at anytime my love x

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 6:21pmReport post

Hiya

It's really quite common lovely and whenever you get a date for something else the more it will okay in your mind and take over everything again!!

Just try and hang in there and believe that one day things will be better, different but better

Lots of love xx

Fairandlovely

Member since
October 2019

33 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 8:02pmReport post

D1286 It is normal i can assure with full authority as i found myself in your state after waiting 14 months before going to court roughly about this time last year. Every single day of those 14 months i went to hell and back and once the court date was fixed, nothing made sense at all, i didnt know what i was doing, couldn't remember what i had done in day, nights were spent crying into my pillows and voices in my head were why me, i have never done anything wrong to deserve this... the thought of the shame of it all if it got reported nearly gave me a stroke, but i lived to tell the tail. I found the court provided closure as opposed to being in no man's land. A year post sentencing we are slowly restoring out lives and trying to move on, you will too so plz look after yourself, what will be, will be and you cant change anything

sending a big hug and best wishes xx

Partner

Member since
July 2019

221 posts

Posted Mon January 6, 2020 8:07pmReport post

The court stage is positive in the sense the end is in sight. Awful as it feels now with the uncertainty, afterwards, no matter what the outcome, it's over. Living with the uncertainty for an extended period of time is unhealthy. At least you will know the outcome. And rebuilding your life starts the day after. Focus on the day after. Thinking of you.