Sentencing
Notifications OFF
Sentencing is done. He got a 12 month suspended sentence. SHPO and SOR both 10 years. He is just thankful it wasn't a custodial. Trial by media now. It's already in the online press and the Facebook brigade are having their say. Hopefully it will be old news in a couple of days. Take care everyone x
Best way to deal with the media is by thinking about the old saying
Todays news is tomorrows chip wrapper
Todays news is tomorrows chip wrapper
Try your best to ignore it - try not to read the s..t xxxx remember they have only seen what the media has printed which doesn't always (mostly) accurately reflect the circumstances of the reality!
keep strong!
keep strong!
Thank you. I haven't read any of it. Came off Facebook when it happened. There was no photograph from the press or police but someone has put it in the comments on the article. Got it from the 'sting' images. But I suppose people would have to scroll through the comments to see it x
My thoughts are very much with you - and this feels very close to home - our sentencing this week too. I'm sitting in bed trying to will myself to get ready for work and get the kids sorted. This is far from easy and words can't describe the fear and anxiety.
I hope coverage and fallout are as minimal as possible. I keep saying to my OH, we know your truth, you're remorseful, you've taken responsibility and you've proactively worked on yourself to make sure it doesn't happen again. What more can he do? The rest is in the hands of the CJS and media, god help us!
Good luck in the coming weeks my lovely and PM me if you need to xxx
I hope coverage and fallout are as minimal as possible. I keep saying to my OH, we know your truth, you're remorseful, you've taken responsibility and you've proactively worked on yourself to make sure it doesn't happen again. What more can he do? The rest is in the hands of the CJS and media, god help us!
Good luck in the coming weeks my lovely and PM me if you need to xxx
Sending hugs Caggie. Do you mind sharing what the offences were? Images only or communication?
I try to reassure myself by remembering I wouldn't recognise any of the men from local rag mugshots if they were walking around town - they're just sad frightened and otherwise ordinary men.
I try to reassure myself by remembering I wouldn't recognise any of the men from local rag mugshots if they were walking around town - they're just sad frightened and otherwise ordinary men.
I'll private message you x
I keep telling myself the same, if I read a social media post with a picture I can't remember the photo ten minutes later! And equally if I read a piece in the news I remember that there's more the "story". But that's still hard to always drill into myself. I hope you don't get much grief from it all.
Could I ask what the charges were?
Could I ask what the charges were?
Yes I suppose I wouldn't remember a photograph I saw in a news report either. It's just the neighbours really who he is quite friendly with. I'll private message you xx
We were in this very place last week and I finally fell apart, when it was published. have found a strength I haven't seen for too many years.
I have read no comments and stayed away from any local reference to courts etc online. I was made aware it exploded and the comments were off the scale. Women telling my son to hang himself, people saying his breath should be removed to people saying they will take him out!
I would challenge any of these people to walk a mile in my shoes, experiencing the incredible lows of the past 3 years.
We have made it and you will too.
xxx
I have read no comments and stayed away from any local reference to courts etc online. I was made aware it exploded and the comments were off the scale. Women telling my son to hang himself, people saying his breath should be removed to people saying they will take him out!
I would challenge any of these people to walk a mile in my shoes, experiencing the incredible lows of the past 3 years.
We have made it and you will too.
xxx
I haven't read anything either. Some people are just awful. My friends have just been keeping an eye out for things online for me. I just don't want him to have any trouble but he said he'll just phone the police. It's the fact that there was no photograph published by the police or press but someone has put his photo in the comments from the vigilante site which worries me. Thank you for your support and I know it will be old news soon enough xx
This is so dreadful. So sorry you're going through this. Hoping people will move on to the next thing soon.
Hycinth
Thank you. I feel this is worse than when it happened. He's been out though. Yesterday he had to go to the probation office and has to go again today. He didn't thankfully get any bother. He's gone to the supermarket this morning. Just told him to be careful. My stomach is in knots. Although this is terrible I think he is just relieved that he didn't get a custodial sentence x
Thank you. I feel this is worse than when it happened. He's been out though. Yesterday he had to go to the probation office and has to go again today. He didn't thankfully get any bother. He's gone to the supermarket this morning. Just told him to be careful. My stomach is in knots. Although this is terrible I think he is just relieved that he didn't get a custodial sentence x