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L2412w

Member since
March 2025

7 posts

Hi. I'm really confused.

My sister has been having visits from a social worker in regards to my OH and what he's done. Bearing in mind. It was just a chat online no arrangement to meet etc (not defending ) can someone shed some light on if it's normal for social workers to then go and visit all our family with kids to check on how they are all doing when he's never around them and even arranging more visits

Posted Tue March 25, 2025 9:35amReport post

HoldingHope

Member since
March 2025

7 posts

We had similar when my husband was charged for images. Our first social worker rang round all of our family who had children and who he had contact with. She told them everything, even though we had already done so, she insisted that she had to communicate with them. She updated them on any change that happened in the case.

However, next social worker was completely different. My sister was round to support me durum a visit and the social worker refused to discuss anything in front of her, despite the fact that she was on the list of allowed to supervisee contact for my daughter, so she knew everything anyway. The only way the social worker would discuss anything in front of her was I had to write out an email that she dictated saying that I have her permission to speak in front of her.

What I'm trying to say is that it seems that they all follow their own rules and they do whatever they like.

Posted Tue March 25, 2025 3:41pmReport post

L2412w

Member since
March 2025

7 posts

Thank you for your reply. I'm just so confused as to why they've gone to my sister specifically over our other family. I feel like it's so overwhelming trying to work out what everything means. She's had more visits from the social worker than I have.

Posted Tue March 25, 2025 9:51pmReport post

Holdingthegrenade

Member since
June 2024

190 posts

L.....I wonder if it's to do with the circumstances around his offending. our social worker was not interested when I said I was the only one who had friends and siblings with young children. Their interest was his access to our own child because he doesn't really see any others.



However my persons offences involved older teen girls; I have nephews. It might be risk related if you say for example have nieces of a similar age to those involved in his offending.

Posted Fri March 28, 2025 10:31pmReport post

Moonbeam88

Member since
July 2024

40 posts

I pretty much had a similar situation the first SW wanted to talk to loads of my family and friends who had children even though my ex doesn't even communicate or see these people to tell them what had happened. Then when I said he has never met or sees/speaks to them she decided not to and then contacted family we do see alot and was in their lives but none of them have children so she didn't seem to fussed in explaining alot to them. Then I had my specific SW given to me and she did the opposite to the first one. Basically questioning me 7 times about grooming even though I worked as a safeguarding lead and know all this stuff she kept telling me I didn't know and needed to learn- for me to tell her stuff she didn't know. (Anyway it was exhausting). But it felt like they was both working from text books of how to be a SW for dummies.

All I can say is I wish you all the best with them and hope you get where you need to be soon. If you need to talk, messenger is always open xxx

Posted Sat March 29, 2025 1:01amReport post

WorriedAndConfused

Member since
November 2024

59 posts

Hiya

The first SW I had called my sister to explain what he had done (we had already done so) It was a 5 minute call and that was it. Also had zero issue discussing everything in front of my dad. All I had to say was my dad knew everything.



The second SW never once contacted anyone in my family

I feel they make their own rules as they go along

Posted Mon March 31, 2025 1:42amReport post

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