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Following my sons sentencing last week, his first encounter today with one of our neighbours.
He was clearly upset that they blanked him when he said hello. He said he would rather they swore at him or said something.
I have tried to reason with him, which can be difficult when you have always raised your children to treat everyone with care, irrespective of who they are, what they look like, where they are from and what they have in life.
He is fragile and while as a family we have accepted anyone can have their opinion of the case but should be respectful.
He is hurting, as many of you will know, with the exception of remorse, his mitigation was missing from the press. Just the words of the prosecution for all to draw on.
He can not tell the neighbour many of the images came into our home when he wasn't in the country?! That there was a defence. However, just something that may not have been accepted by 12 individuals on the day.
One week has passed and until today we have managed the situation well.
Xx
He was clearly upset that they blanked him when he said hello. He said he would rather they swore at him or said something.
I have tried to reason with him, which can be difficult when you have always raised your children to treat everyone with care, irrespective of who they are, what they look like, where they are from and what they have in life.
He is fragile and while as a family we have accepted anyone can have their opinion of the case but should be respectful.
He is hurting, as many of you will know, with the exception of remorse, his mitigation was missing from the press. Just the words of the prosecution for all to draw on.
He can not tell the neighbour many of the images came into our home when he wasn't in the country?! That there was a defence. However, just something that may not have been accepted by 12 individuals on the day.
One week has passed and until today we have managed the situation well.
Xx
It's so sad that the public only see the sensationalised version of the offence. We just have to try and weather the storm and go on regardless. It's just worrying not knowing how people will react. Xx
One thing to bear in mind is that surveys etc suggest that a surprisingly large percentage of the population has experienced sexual abuse at some point in their lives, so you have no idea what the people reacting to your son may have lived through & how hard seeing someone who they know has committed sexual offences against children (even if those offences were 'only' online) may be.
My oh felt the need to explain to 2 of our neighbours what the full story was as he didn't want them thinking the worst about him, your doing well take every day as it comes
Yes, he too is one of those for which the offender received a 20 month prison sentence! So he is very much aware.
my young person didn't have the chance to explain , neither did we , his mum tried and was called a liar a Pe@#@ protector and lover every name under the sun, our family ripped to shreds on social media and vigilante a lot of whom we knew whom we never thought could treat us this way and wanted no explanation I believe they already wanted an excuse to go against us as some we no longer were friends with and used it against us that's the worst feeling not getting the whole truth out there just what they read in the tabloids ..some people ga e us the opportunity, and for that forever greatful but it's a stigma that will stay with him through life and for that I feel so bad for him .. but I no longer explain it'd draining u have to let people believe what they want and that's also tough but for us as a family many people's opinions are there and will stay with them forever now so we move forward each day at a time praying that one day he also recovers from it we've shielded him from a lot and I dread the day of any public confrontations I have to stop myself thinking the worst and those feelings unfortunately will stay with me forever .x
Lost, your post made me so sad and my heart breaks for your son. My sons best friend turned his back on him as soon as I told him what my son had done which hurt my son badly.
The love we have for our sons is unconditional, we know they've made some bad choices, but we still love them. Sadly, outsiders don't have the same love for our sons that we have and some people allow their opinion of the person to be overshadowed by the worst actions they have taken.
My hope and prayer is that the public will become more educated on the complicted nature of sexual offending and that we, the family members will become strong enough and brave enough to speak out about the things we've had to learn and work through in support of our loved one's.
The love we have for our sons is unconditional, we know they've made some bad choices, but we still love them. Sadly, outsiders don't have the same love for our sons that we have and some people allow their opinion of the person to be overshadowed by the worst actions they have taken.
My hope and prayer is that the public will become more educated on the complicted nature of sexual offending and that we, the family members will become strong enough and brave enough to speak out about the things we've had to learn and work through in support of our loved one's.