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SS have closed our case but insisted that my partner cannot have ANY access to my daughter (he has been part of her life since birth). Bail conditions state supervised acces is ok- but SS say 100% no and if I allowed it, it would trigger a reopening of our case.
Can they actually enforce this? He hasn't been charged, devices are still be analysed, he's complied with everything he's been asked to. I feel like I'm being forced to end my relationship.
Can they actually enforce this? He hasn't been charged, devices are still be analysed, he's complied with everything he's been asked to. I feel like I'm being forced to end my relationship.
Surely if the bail conditions state he is ok to have supervised visits they can't refuse that? Well that's my understanding of it. I would speak to someone and get advice on that
SS are a law to themselves unfortunately. My OH had bail conditions lifted in June 2024, SS will not let him live at home. They are not interested in facts and evidence and everything is based on what ifs and probabilities. They are an absolute nightmare x
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first SW we had told me we would never be a proper family again. That even if he was found not guilty it would depend on what kind of not guilty. I had to step in and say it's guilty or not guilty. They definitely have a guilty until proven innocent mentality.
The other SW wants to keep us together
first SW we had told me we would never be a proper family again. That even if he was found not guilty it would depend on what kind of not guilty. I had to step in and say it's guilty or not guilty. They definitely have a guilty until proven innocent mentality.
The other SW wants to keep us together
Exactly this- it's all down to personalities which isn't right. My OH pleaded guilty to his charge which was obscene publications 1959 (no images involved). SS will not let him live at home. I've got a solicitor involved now to challenge them as they put our daughter on a CPP and have done nothing for 8 months.
Thank you for your replies. I did consult a solicitor who said it looks like SS are covering their own backs with such strict rules and that if they were concerned I wasn't prioritising my daughter's safety, they could easily escalate it.
This could look like CIN or even reaching out to my ex to see if he would have her live with him (no way!).
So again, I feel trapped by the ever-present threat of having my beautiful child taken away.
I hate the constant suspicion that I'm not a good mum because I haven't instantly rejecting my partner.
This could look like CIN or even reaching out to my ex to see if he would have her live with him (no way!).
So again, I feel trapped by the ever-present threat of having my beautiful child taken away.
I hate the constant suspicion that I'm not a good mum because I haven't instantly rejecting my partner.
I would challenge them on this and argue that children not seeing their dad causes emotional harm. Social workers are supposed to work with you not against you. The case might be closed now but they will get back in touch when he is charged, I found this out the hard way. I had no idea they would be back once bail conditions were lifted. My OH committed his offence in August 2023, he is still not allowed home. On the flip side I have a stage 2 complaint open with SS on how they have handled this case and a stage 1 complaint open with MoJ over the conduct and behaviour of the probabtion officer, he has done a lot of damage in this case. On the plus side- he has been suspended from being my OH's PO as his line manager is really concerned about the complaint we have submitted.