Family and Friends Forum

Hello all this is my first time posting on here and unfortunately joined “ The Knock” club with the rest of you since the beginning of February. I know how every one of you feels currently as the only description I can give is that someone has dropped a bomb on my home and life 8 weeks ago. I am a mum to x2 children ages 12 and 10. My husband who has brought them up from babies but is step father not biological dad was arrested. I have been together with him for the last 8 years and married for 5 years. We own a house together and usually live together with the children. Brakes my heart to say this but My husband is currently on bail for online sexual communication with a child ( 13 years old) and unable to live in the family home and only aloud supervised contact with the children in the family home and community. We believe this to be a decoy not that this matters and makes it any better. Social services were quickly involved and we was placed under section 47 enquires. Social services have spent time with myself as mum and both children and are happy that the children have come to no harm. The children constantly asked to see my husband and. A safety plan was quickly created working with the police and social services. This is absolutely followed and we are managing to have some family time with my husband as hard and as strict as the restrictions are. I am in no place what so ever to currently navigate our futures as this is all so raw and only the beginning of the process. Police searched our home address and took x2 phones one work phone and one personal they did my husbands work phone as an emergency and gave this back. This is a first offence for my husband and had never been in trouble with the police prior to this. We have had some deep lengthly chats and my husband has confessed to being on a chat room for around the last 10 years and has confessed to having a problem/addiction to this speaking sexually to women. My husband has had the chance and opportunity to tell myself and family who are supporting and haven’t turned their backs on him the whole truth. My husband says he had a x3 week conversation to who he thought was a women and half way through she told him she was 13 my husband stupidly carried on and had a sexual communication conversation with her. There was no talks of meeting each other but my husband exchanged x3 sexual photographs of his self and sent to the girl. This week police have said they expect my husbands phone to be checked as his is 5/40th in the Que and once it is confirmed there is nothing else police will decide what they are doing with him. This week also social services we’re going to close muself and children’s case but are hanging on and have kept us open as the police are close to checking the phone ect. I am fully engaging with social services and we have our safety plan ect in plan. This is completely new to me. I am currently living my worst nightmare each day I am finding it easier and keeping busy with the children and work ect. I feel so punished right now as husband usually does school runs after work ect to aid me to work my family are having the children x2 weekends a month so I can work also. I completely understand why the safety plan is in place ect and am not trying to minimise what he has done. My husband is usually such a down to earth family man and would do anything for his family. What kind of punishment can my husband except? Are social services ever going to let us try and navigate our life’s as a family again? Sending love to anyone in this awful position grateful of any advice right now