SS getting ridiculous
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I just need a rant more than anything but I've had SS in my life now for well over 2 years now, since day one they wanted my OH out of the picture completely, then when my OH was given a suspended sentence they've really dragged their heels to the point where we were put on PLO. That escalation they all admitted was not mine or my OH's fault but simply 'cause of how long it's been allowed to go on for with little to no progress.
PLO has wrecked my mental health and for months I lived terrified if they wanted to take me to court but the thing is nothing is different! I was told when a case has been escalated to PLO deadlines have to be met and quickly. Yet SS still continue to cancel/delay meetings last second, reports that were meant to be in over a week ago still not ready and won't be for another week, visits not taking place in the timescale, it just feels so ridiculous and unfair, I do everything they ask, comply with every single requirement given but I can't get the same courtesy? I get they probably have dosens of other families but I can't keep living like this.
I've contacted my solicitor and they've been chasing everything up but I honestly don't know what else they can do, by the looks of things SS will never let us be a family and I am not risking my child in court x
PLO has wrecked my mental health and for months I lived terrified if they wanted to take me to court but the thing is nothing is different! I was told when a case has been escalated to PLO deadlines have to be met and quickly. Yet SS still continue to cancel/delay meetings last second, reports that were meant to be in over a week ago still not ready and won't be for another week, visits not taking place in the timescale, it just feels so ridiculous and unfair, I do everything they ask, comply with every single requirement given but I can't get the same courtesy? I get they probably have dosens of other families but I can't keep living like this.
I've contacted my solicitor and they've been chasing everything up but I honestly don't know what else they can do, by the looks of things SS will never let us be a family and I am not risking my child in court x
Seeing your post fills me dread. SS have been exactly the same with me. They won't let OH live at the house and he hasn't done since his offence (August 2023). Daughter has been on a CPP since August 24 and they have done nothing in 9 months. I've got a stage 2 complaint open with them on how they have handled this case and I've got a solicitor involved aswell. I completely feel your pain x
PS meant to add that OH did a SAR and got sent his Oasys documentation. In there it says OH is low risk- chance of him re-offending is less than 1%. In the PSR it says the risk is medium but risk is not imminent. We have given screen shots of this to SS in the stage 2 complaint. His PO has said all along he is high risk which SS believe. The high risk obviously contradicts whats in the legal paperwork. We have told SS that they cannot rely on the PO. We have also put in a complaint about the PO and he has been suspended from being my OH's PO until the complaint is investigated. We have our next core group meeting tomorrow and PO has been told that he is not allowed to attend. He has to give a written update to the SW and it can only be based on facts and not opinions!
Thanks for the response, I've been wanting to put in a complaint too for the longest time but was honestly too scared, the thing that makes it so much more frustraiting for us is every single proffessional we've worked with (including police!) haven't had an issue and are admittedly just as confused as to why SS have been so harsh in our case. His PO and court marked him as a low risk of reoffending but medium risk if left isolated with internet access which to me seems what SS is aiming for as they couldn't care less if he ends up on the streets.
Unfortunately because of all this my OH and I have spoken about and preparing for what will happen when they finally give us a black and white answer i.e. that we have no choice but to separate, but until we get that answer from them then we're yet again stuck in limbo.
I'm HOPING that this finally gets some sort of conclusion in the next couple of weeks but with my experience, I'm not holding my breath x
Unfortunately because of all this my OH and I have spoken about and preparing for what will happen when they finally give us a black and white answer i.e. that we have no choice but to separate, but until we get that answer from them then we're yet again stuck in limbo.
I'm HOPING that this finally gets some sort of conclusion in the next couple of weeks but with my experience, I'm not holding my breath x
My SW is offended that I have got a solicitor involved. I really don't care, they cannot put my daughter on a CPP and then do nothing for 8 months which my solicitor agrees with.
Good on you for getting a solicitor and I wouldn't worry about them being offended by it either, if anything let them be offended. I've actually asked my solicitor what we can do to escalate things further now as SS are honestly just taking the mic now the "mistakes" that's been happening for over 2 years is happening far too often and it's honestly got to the point where my family and I think they're doing it on purpose to get us to split up. We were meant to have our reports and meetings weeks ago and I still haven't heard a thing whats going on yet x
SW did her standard home visit today, she is clearly miffed! She's now blaming management for the CPP remaining in place and that it's not her decision x