What does this mean??
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So I haven't posted on here for a while as I have just been getting on with it.
back story, partner of 11 years (kids dad) was arrested for IIOC (1 image reported from Snapchat) end of Jan and hasn't been able to speak to the kids since.
he has been staying at his nans in a different county ever since the arrest and we have just been waiting for forensics to look into his phone ( all other devices came back clear).
his bail end date is may. However, his sister has called me this morning and said that he has just been arrested again a and all of his nans devices have been taken. What does this mean? Does it mean that he has done something whilst being there? He doesn't have a phone so it would have been his nans that he used but surely you wouldn't!
he said after the first arrest that he had no recollection of the image etc. obviously I don't have much information of this arrest as haven't spoken to him but I'm really co fused and wondering anyone can shed any light?
back story, partner of 11 years (kids dad) was arrested for IIOC (1 image reported from Snapchat) end of Jan and hasn't been able to speak to the kids since.
he has been staying at his nans in a different county ever since the arrest and we have just been waiting for forensics to look into his phone ( all other devices came back clear).
his bail end date is may. However, his sister has called me this morning and said that he has just been arrested again a and all of his nans devices have been taken. What does this mean? Does it mean that he has done something whilst being there? He doesn't have a phone so it would have been his nans that he used but surely you wouldn't!
he said after the first arrest that he had no recollection of the image etc. obviously I don't have much information of this arrest as haven't spoken to him but I'm really co fused and wondering anyone can shed any light?
Hi, it suggests the Police have found something on the IP address at the Nan's, or someone has alleged something. Or, it could be a follow on from the one image they found originally. Depending on the relationship with him now, you could ask him to inform the officer in charge to give you full disclosure which means you'll be able to know what's going on. I think that would be reasonablebe considering you share children. I'm sorry. X
I have no way of contacting him at the moment. His dad called me and said that the OUC of this arrest has said he will be released later today and he will keep me updated but I'm just so confused. I would like to hope he hasn't done this again at his nans and is linked to the first picture but who knows.
i have asked the OIC of the first arrest to call me as surely they will have been told?
i have asked the OIC of the first arrest to call me as surely they will have been told?
The trouble is that unless your person has specifically said that the OIC can talk to you about the case, they won't. I'm sorry. X
It sounds very upsetting that he has been arrested again when you are already trying to deal with the impact of the first arrest. But do you know for certain that his arrest is related to his original offence? It doesn't sound like anyone knows? He could have been arrested for anything and not necessarily anything image or online related. Obviously I don't know what information you have but I would just try to not jump to conclusions that it is automatically something to do with iioc because it may not be. Our heads can come up with the wildest of scenarios when we are dealing with uncertainty and most often than not, our heads catastrophise much more than reality x
He's definitely done it again such a shame
Suziesweet
I'm sorry but I think that's a massive assumption to make based on the little information that the OP has. Even if "he's definitely done it again" I would try to be really mindful of the language used and the way we respond to people already frightened and worried to death.
I'm sorry but I think that's a massive assumption to make based on the little information that the OP has. Even if "he's definitely done it again" I would try to be really mindful of the language used and the way we respond to people already frightened and worried to death.
The OIC of the recent arrest called his sister yesterday and unfortunately the arrest was for a sexual conversation with an underage girl. I don't know the age but they said it was clearly stated in the conversation. Obviously he is saying that he didn't know the age but I don't believe him and he hasn't actually spoken to me, this is information I'm getting from his family. He hung up on me and won't give me an explanation.
I can't believe he has done this when he was already on bail for the first one which me and his family tried so hard to be there for him and believe him when he has put us in the situation and now he's done this. No care in the world for his kids that he knows are struggling like mad at the minute.
We are officially done and depending on the outcome of both investigations I don't know if he will see the kids again. Safe to say my 9 year old is heartbroken as he was so close to having contact with them again and she knew that. I had to tell her this morning as she was asking questions and I said daddy still loves you, her words were "no he doesn't, if he did love us he wouldn't have done this", with tears falling down her face. And I can't blame her for thinking that. Such a sad and heartbreaking situation for the kids involved in these things :(
I can't believe he has done this when he was already on bail for the first one which me and his family tried so hard to be there for him and believe him when he has put us in the situation and now he's done this. No care in the world for his kids that he knows are struggling like mad at the minute.
We are officially done and depending on the outcome of both investigations I don't know if he will see the kids again. Safe to say my 9 year old is heartbroken as he was so close to having contact with them again and she knew that. I had to tell her this morning as she was asking questions and I said daddy still loves you, her words were "no he doesn't, if he did love us he wouldn't have done this", with tears falling down her face. And I can't blame her for thinking that. Such a sad and heartbreaking situation for the kids involved in these things :(
Sosad946
Im so sorry to read what you've learned. I hope you find the strength to walk away if that's what you want. No on deserves to live with the fear of recurring knocks. X
Im so sorry to read what you've learned. I hope you find the strength to walk away if that's what you want. No on deserves to live with the fear of recurring knocks. X
Sosad - this is so heartbreaking for you and your child. And so unfair. He clearly needs help as he couldn't stop himself from doing it again. Look after yourselves this weekend xx