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3littlebirds

Member since
December 2023

12 posts

Hoping to find some support as my son is now serving a prison sentence. I'm so lost.

Posted Thu April 3, 2025 3:13pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

907 posts

Oh 3littlebirds I'm so sorry to read this and can only imagine how totally lost you must feel. I don't have experience of the prison system so can't offer you any support in that but I do want you to know I'm here for you if ever you want to chat.

Posted Thu April 3, 2025 5:05pmReport post

3littlebirds

Member since
December 2023

12 posts

Just to clarify, we weren't expecting this. The pre sentence report recommended community service. All the indications were for suspended etc as there are no children in the family and he's currently employed.



Nobody knows. It wasn't my story to tell.

Posted Thu April 3, 2025 6:51pmReport post

PrairieMom

Member since
May 2024

112 posts

Hello 3littlebirds,

I am sorry that your son didn't get the sentence he was expecting. I hope he can make the most of the time and take some relief knowing he is past sentencing. My husband is incarcerated in Canada, and he has been safe and keeping busy.

Posted Thu April 3, 2025 7:05pmReport post

EBP

Member since
September 2021

229 posts

My son is also serving a sentence. It is so scary & unknown,but it does sadly become normal.

Firstly get their prison ID number,this is the start for all communication.

They are likely to be placed on a Vulnerable Person wing.

They will be issued with prison clothes.

Please pm me if you have any other questions. You will get through this.

Posted Fri April 4, 2025 12:01amReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2693 posts

It is horrible in the beginning - I always say it's just like a bereavement, I use to cry endlessly and walk round amongst my sons belongings, but as EPB says it becomes part of the routine.

Once you get communication in place you will find your mind will settle and so will he. Please read my earlier post.

Bless x

Posted Fri April 4, 2025 4:09amReport post

Devastated_mum

Member since
July 2024

63 posts

I'm so sorry. I (along with many others here) totally understand how you feel. My son had a prison sentence last year...

You get into a routine with it and there definitely a form of "gallows humour" that goes with the territory... we actually found we got our son back, rather than the secretive person he'd become...

Keep talking, we're here to hold your hand (even those of us who pop in and out and lurk more than post...)

Posted Fri April 4, 2025 5:31pmReport post

LisaMargeMaggie

Member since
July 2024

176 posts

Oh Devastated your post caught me in the feels! You've got your son back <3

Posted Fri April 4, 2025 7:56pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2693 posts

Yes - that comment grabbed me too (Devastated Mum) - I think I'm closer to my son now than I've been for years. Bye bye secret life - now we 'talk'.

Posted Fri April 4, 2025 8:01pm
Edited Fri April 4, 2025 8:03pmReport post

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