4th adjournment
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Ex was due sentencing on Monday, 3 years after the knock. It's been adjourned for the 4th time. The "reasons" are never anything to do with the case. I can't do this any more. X
Hi,
I can't believe I am ready this. I am so sorry. It is entirely unacceptable.
Sending you strength and stamping my feet for you .
Ashes x
I can't believe I am ready this. I am so sorry. It is entirely unacceptable.
Sending you strength and stamping my feet for you .
Ashes x
This is horrendous and indefensible. I cannot understand how any system can call itself 'just' in these circumstances. Perhaps you have already but I wonder if you would consider writing to your MP? It may not make a difference but just writing it down on paper may help.
I have read on a number of your posts that this relates to your ex. I understand that irrespective of whether you are together or not, these adjournments will impact you and your joint children. I just wonder, if you are no longer together is there any way that you can distance yourself from this turmoil so that you're not so expectant on these dates?
Sending strength.
I have read on a number of your posts that this relates to your ex. I understand that irrespective of whether you are together or not, these adjournments will impact you and your joint children. I just wonder, if you are no longer together is there any way that you can distance yourself from this turmoil so that you're not so expectant on these dates?
Sending strength.
Loveactually
Thank you for commenting.
Although my ex and I are divorced, he's my carer. I became very physically and mentally ill following the first knock but also became homeless with our youngest. I was so ill I couldn't get out of bed or out of a chair without help. The only person left who was able to assist me was my ex. Everyone else had disappeared due to the ex's conviction. Then came the second knock. He also helps me with our Autistic adult child who has severe ME. Although they're an adult, theyre very much dependent on me for everything. The ex hasn't worked since the first knock which is another reason he became my carer because he had the time To be able to do it, so I'm sure you can see why our lives have become enmeshed. I don't have any other family or friends to rely on. I really wish I could've walked away after the second knock but I simply wasn't in a position to. I think if I had, my autistic child would've ended up in care and that simply wasn't happening. Theyve been through enough. I have an NHS Psychiatrist who I saw recently. He told me it's my own fault that I'm in this mess because I allowed the ex back into my life. He didn't know any other detail. He also quoted something I said that he wrote in a letter to my GP following this appointment. He said that I "still believes her ex to be a good person". Again, he doesn't know the detail. If my ex had always been an a**e, it would've been so much easier to walk away when he first went to prison but he was a good husband and a phenomenal Dad. In actual fact, I moved abroad a year after the first knock with my two younger children. It didn't work out but it shows I did try to get away but things changed and I needed support. I really wish I could get out of this situation but I really don't think my adult child and I are well enough and strong enough to go it alone. However, I fully expect that he'll be heading back to prison, so my hand could be forced. In a way, I hope this is the case.
Once this is "over" and I've been through the media farce (again) I fully intend to meet with my MP face to face about all we've been through. I'm still mighty hacked off that the thousands of pounds worth of electronics the Police seized, I never got back, including all my family photos. This is outrageous and has to stop. I had not done anything wrong. Hope you're doing ok. Wishing you all the best. X. Apologies for the essay. X
Thank you for commenting.
Although my ex and I are divorced, he's my carer. I became very physically and mentally ill following the first knock but also became homeless with our youngest. I was so ill I couldn't get out of bed or out of a chair without help. The only person left who was able to assist me was my ex. Everyone else had disappeared due to the ex's conviction. Then came the second knock. He also helps me with our Autistic adult child who has severe ME. Although they're an adult, theyre very much dependent on me for everything. The ex hasn't worked since the first knock which is another reason he became my carer because he had the time To be able to do it, so I'm sure you can see why our lives have become enmeshed. I don't have any other family or friends to rely on. I really wish I could've walked away after the second knock but I simply wasn't in a position to. I think if I had, my autistic child would've ended up in care and that simply wasn't happening. Theyve been through enough. I have an NHS Psychiatrist who I saw recently. He told me it's my own fault that I'm in this mess because I allowed the ex back into my life. He didn't know any other detail. He also quoted something I said that he wrote in a letter to my GP following this appointment. He said that I "still believes her ex to be a good person". Again, he doesn't know the detail. If my ex had always been an a**e, it would've been so much easier to walk away when he first went to prison but he was a good husband and a phenomenal Dad. In actual fact, I moved abroad a year after the first knock with my two younger children. It didn't work out but it shows I did try to get away but things changed and I needed support. I really wish I could get out of this situation but I really don't think my adult child and I are well enough and strong enough to go it alone. However, I fully expect that he'll be heading back to prison, so my hand could be forced. In a way, I hope this is the case.
Once this is "over" and I've been through the media farce (again) I fully intend to meet with my MP face to face about all we've been through. I'm still mighty hacked off that the thousands of pounds worth of electronics the Police seized, I never got back, including all my family photos. This is outrageous and has to stop. I had not done anything wrong. Hope you're doing ok. Wishing you all the best. X. Apologies for the essay. X
Oh LittleRobin, I'm so sorry. Its unacceptable for all of you. Can you write to the court and explain your situation and how these constant adjournments are affecting you? X
Poppet
I wouldn't waste my time and energy. We don't matter in any of this.
I wouldn't waste my time and energy. We don't matter in any of this.