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Hi. I'd not been on here for months as I felt it got quite stressful trying to keep on top of all the posts however over the christmas period found myself drawn to it again. Just to recap I'm 2 years post knock with 2 young children and my husband is not living in the family home. I feel now something needs to change but still don't know what I want for the future. We've been lucky with no backlash from the community. Please can I just ask for any of you who have decided to remain as a family do you worry about your childrens friends etc finding out and the impact it may have on them? I would want to move to a new area where hopefully no one would know us. In addition do you worry about future relationships of your children ie if and when they settle down with a partner and telling them about this and the reaction of the partner? I can't stop thinking about the what ifs. Sallyblue I wondered whether you in particular had thoughts on these points as I find your story very similar to my own and your posts are inspirational. Thanks all in advance x
Hi tired mummy
my son commited a communication offence. Images he had were from the girl he was chatting to but the press made it out that he had other images because they just said indecent images.
we moved area before it hit the press which I think was for the best. It did go in the local paper and did the Facebook rounds but not on the scale of them paedophile hunter sites.
i can tell you that we have concerns about people finding out who he is when he comes out of prison. We also worry for our daughter . She is in a relationship at the moment with a lovely man. He was around when our son was arrested and knew our son a long time before that. He supported our daughter and son and accepted our son had done something stupid.
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we worry a lot if that relationship failed and she met anyone else. She would need to tell anyone new from the off and the way society is there's a big chance the person will take off before anything even starts.
theres also our toddler grandson. We worry when he goes to school. Who knows whether it could come out at some point in his school years. We worry if it came out he'd be left out of everything just because his uncle has done something so stupid.
theres also the worry of making new friends. I've stayed away from doing that where we currently live just because of the whole situation. I wouldn't want to live a secret life full of lies where I can't tell a friend the truth so it's easier not to make friends in the first place.
i wish there was a way for the ladies on here to meet up every so often for a chatter. There are ladies up and down the country who are going through the same as each other. The offences are different but believe me the torture is the same. X
my son commited a communication offence. Images he had were from the girl he was chatting to but the press made it out that he had other images because they just said indecent images.
we moved area before it hit the press which I think was for the best. It did go in the local paper and did the Facebook rounds but not on the scale of them paedophile hunter sites.
i can tell you that we have concerns about people finding out who he is when he comes out of prison. We also worry for our daughter . She is in a relationship at the moment with a lovely man. He was around when our son was arrested and knew our son a long time before that. He supported our daughter and son and accepted our son had done something stupid.
w
we worry a lot if that relationship failed and she met anyone else. She would need to tell anyone new from the off and the way society is there's a big chance the person will take off before anything even starts.
theres also our toddler grandson. We worry when he goes to school. Who knows whether it could come out at some point in his school years. We worry if it came out he'd be left out of everything just because his uncle has done something so stupid.
theres also the worry of making new friends. I've stayed away from doing that where we currently live just because of the whole situation. I wouldn't want to live a secret life full of lies where I can't tell a friend the truth so it's easier not to make friends in the first place.
i wish there was a way for the ladies on here to meet up every so often for a chatter. There are ladies up and down the country who are going through the same as each other. The offences are different but believe me the torture is the same. X
Hi nice Nana
If you join Mumsnet you can private message people who are from the forum and now on there.
This has led to many of us swapping phone numbers and trusting each other - not easy I know!
In November last year 7 of us met up and hired a house for the weekend, we all had an instant bond which will remain with us forever, we all 'got it' we all understood.
If you want to join Mumsnet my user name is TB14 or if you can't work out how to message or your user name on here and I'll message you
This fits for anyone who needs it xx
If you join Mumsnet you can private message people who are from the forum and now on there.
This has led to many of us swapping phone numbers and trusting each other - not easy I know!
In November last year 7 of us met up and hired a house for the weekend, we all had an instant bond which will remain with us forever, we all 'got it' we all understood.
If you want to join Mumsnet my user name is TB14 or if you can't work out how to message or your user name on here and I'll message you
This fits for anyone who needs it xx
Hey! I'm on mumsnet as BlueSally feel free to message me at anytime.
I worry what the future holds for when the kids are older and know about what dad done. However, I hope they wont grow to resent us and we will educate them on the real dangers of online. They will know not everything is black and white.
We moved to a new area, a new region yet one of our old neighbours also lives here. Unfortunately you cant hide from everyone. Someone will always turn up. It's just not being scared of it all, that's the hard part.
There are always concerns but the positives outweigh the negatives. X
I worry what the future holds for when the kids are older and know about what dad done. However, I hope they wont grow to resent us and we will educate them on the real dangers of online. They will know not everything is black and white.
We moved to a new area, a new region yet one of our old neighbours also lives here. Unfortunately you cant hide from everyone. Someone will always turn up. It's just not being scared of it all, that's the hard part.
There are always concerns but the positives outweigh the negatives. X