The abused children
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TRIGGER - PTSD & CHILD ABUSE. My persons second case is due in court soon having been adjourned the night before on 4 previous occasions. Its been 3 years since the knock. In the run up to these dates, my PTSD kicks in big style. Nightly nightmares, flashbacks to the knock, jumping when the doorbell rings or the phone goes. But by far, it's the thought of all those poor children having unspeakable things done to them, some of them just babies. No one seems to mention them often. Is it because it is "unspeakable " horror that forces it to the back of our minds? For me, I find it so very hard to understand why. And I start thinking about all those innocent children having their lives torn apart. It's so hard to reconcile the person I know and love with such horror.
No point to my post, just venting, I guess. X
No point to my post, just venting, I guess. X
I find myself thinking about this a lot and I think I don't overlay mention it because of the shame that my family member had brought this about us , we don't condone and never would condone child abuse of any kind he wasn't brought up to condone this and knows its wrong and I think the shame of this is massive it's horrific for those children and often wonder what will come of their life's you just pray they can heal but I know that's not the case it's heartbreaking I feel if I don't think about it then in my head it isn't real I think I try to detach my mind from the crime just for me to be able to cope I can't explain it any other way x
I've said it many times on the forum over the years.
I doubt there's not one person here that makes excuses or does not think about the victims (children/young people) that our loved ones be it contact or non contact have created by their actions.
It certainly pays a big part in our pain in the horrible aftermath we have to endure.
I doubt there's not one person here that makes excuses or does not think about the victims (children/young people) that our loved ones be it contact or non contact have created by their actions.
It certainly pays a big part in our pain in the horrible aftermath we have to endure.
I definitely try not to think about the actual content my husband has viewed and actively sought out, as a coping mechanism. But sometimes it hits me like a tonne of bricks and I feel crushed for these poor poor children. I think when you've not seen this content yourself, it's easier to dissociate yourself from it because you just can't comprehend why our person has searched for such things. Even if they've admitted to an attraction to children, it's incomprehensible when we'd never ever look at these things ourselves.
I think about those victims all the time, I'm sure many of us do. My husband and I make a monthly donation to the Canadian center for child protection. I'm not saying that makes what he did okay, but it's how we make a living amends and a commitment to helping support victims and their families. LFF is a great charity to support as well, if you can. I'm curious what other people do? What other kinds of positive actions could we be taking to support victims?
PRARIEMOM
My ex lives on the lowest of benefits but he saves a little every month and then at Christmas, every year, he buys a Lego set and gives it to a children's charity. I found this out by accident - he didn't tell me and no one else knows.
My ex lives on the lowest of benefits but he saves a little every month and then at Christmas, every year, he buys a Lego set and gives it to a children's charity. I found this out by accident - he didn't tell me and no one else knows.
POPPET
I decided to go to the sentencing hearing the first time round. I went with my then 19 year old. The Judge described the images in detail. It was beyond anything I could ever have imagined. It was horrific. My ex was sobbing in the dock with shame. He was inconsolable. The grade A images were inside a file he'd downloaded but not looked at so even he was shocked at the description. I really regret that my daughter had to hear all that and those descriptions will never, ever leave me.
I decided to go to the sentencing hearing the first time round. I went with my then 19 year old. The Judge described the images in detail. It was beyond anything I could ever have imagined. It was horrific. My ex was sobbing in the dock with shame. He was inconsolable. The grade A images were inside a file he'd downloaded but not looked at so even he was shocked at the description. I really regret that my daughter had to hear all that and those descriptions will never, ever leave me.
Little Robin, I recognize that I'm fortunate to have a small bit of disposable income at the end of the month. I think what your husband does by donating a gift is excellent!
I am curious if there are other ways to support victims that aren't financial?
I am curious if there are other ways to support victims that aren't financial?