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Hi 2 months since knock absolutely shattered feel like my hearts been ripped out and stamped all over. My person is my 18 year old son he has said he had an addiction to porn I wish he had spoke to me but didn't now the iioc I'm gobsmacked I would never of thought it in a million years.
My son has had to move out as his younger sibling is on the house that as broke me as he's never been away from home although he seems to be coping OK.
My thing is his stepdad doesn't want him seeing his younger sibling (younger ones dad) he hasn't even seen him since he left I try go up every weekend to see him and message everyday I absolutely do not condone what he has done but I love him and need to be there for him but I would also like him to still have a relationship with his younger sibling obviously with me supervising. Am I wrong for wanting this should I cut all ties I'm lost and torn...
My son has had to move out as his younger sibling is on the house that as broke me as he's never been away from home although he seems to be coping OK.
My thing is his stepdad doesn't want him seeing his younger sibling (younger ones dad) he hasn't even seen him since he left I try go up every weekend to see him and message everyday I absolutely do not condone what he has done but I love him and need to be there for him but I would also like him to still have a relationship with his younger sibling obviously with me supervising. Am I wrong for wanting this should I cut all ties I'm lost and torn...
Hi, this might be taken out of your hands due to what his bail conditions state. Usually they say no contact with anyone under 18, at least initially. That aside, and if the younger sibling wants contact, supervised contact would be the way to go but maybe this could be done by someone other than yourself. I wish you all the very best.
Hi, thanks for replying really appreciate it. His bail conditions at the minute are not aloud to stay here and supervised contact. But they have not had any contact have video called a couple times.
My partner has brought my son up since he was 5 and he hasn't seen him either which his hard cus I want to still be there and help him as much as I can but then feel like I shouldn't I'm confused and struggling with it all I just wanna run away but trying so hard to be strong.... why why why
My partner has brought my son up since he was 5 and he hasn't seen him either which his hard cus I want to still be there and help him as much as I can but then feel like I shouldn't I'm confused and struggling with it all I just wanna run away but trying so hard to be strong.... why why why
I hear you. I've often wanted to run away or to be able to simply move away, but that's not an option for me. You might find it beneficial to call the helpline, or use the live chat. Sometimes simply taking things through can be of benefit. My inbox is always open if you need to vent. Sending hugs. X
Thank you so much I just don't know what to do we have not told anyone yet so only my partner to talk to but find it hard to talk to him sometimes, i am dreading telling family and don't know when Is best to do so now or when we know what actually being charged with like how do you tell someone about this. Ive got 101 questions at min I've tried the chat but it's always busy when I get to go on it might try and ring thank you again and sorry for going on x
Don't apologise.
Sometimes, keeping it quiet is harder than telling people. I guess you need to gauge how each individual will react but, until you have the facts, it's difficult. X
Sometimes, keeping it quiet is harder than telling people. I guess you need to gauge how each individual will react but, until you have the facts, it's difficult. X
Yh I did think that and my partner wants to tell everyone now! But I'm not ready neither is my son he is so so scared scared for his life when people he knows finds out and that scares me knowing that he's not at home with me or coming back here anymore he's out there on his own and anything could happen. Thank you for listening x
Safety, others knowing and the press are the biggest stressors for sure. Like you, I'd want to keep it quiet for now. X