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So 3 weeks post sentencing and a call from the local police to advise two weeks ago they received a call!
They would like to invite my son in to discuss an accusation/claim made.
It was reported two weeks ago, so a week after the case went in the media and apparently from 4 years ago.
To say my world is upside down again is nothing short of an understatement!
My son has no phone from that period or record of that time to refer back to, such as messages.
He is looking through photos but currently we have no idea what or who this relates to.
i feel like I'm right back at the original knock almost three years ago and my heart has stopped and I simply ache. The dread is immense.
Has anyone experienced similar?
xx
They would like to invite my son in to discuss an accusation/claim made.
It was reported two weeks ago, so a week after the case went in the media and apparently from 4 years ago.
To say my world is upside down again is nothing short of an understatement!
My son has no phone from that period or record of that time to refer back to, such as messages.
He is looking through photos but currently we have no idea what or who this relates to.
i feel like I'm right back at the original knock almost three years ago and my heart has stopped and I simply ache. The dread is immense.
Has anyone experienced similar?
xx
I'm so sorry. This must be incredibly hard.
This is precisely why I have such conflicting views about the press reporting these things.
My ex was sentenced for IIOC. But the Police absolutely believed that once it went in the press etc, someone would come forward accusing him of a contact offence. In his case, this didn't happen.
I'm terrified of the press reporting these crimes but I also understand that the Police want To get these crimes out there in case a contact/communication offence has taken place .
I sincerely hope that in your case it isn't true, like my persons case wasn't. I guess what I'm saying is that they might not be discussing images, but something more. But obviously, I don't know. I truly wish you all the very best and would encourage you to use the LF helpline if need be. X
This is precisely why I have such conflicting views about the press reporting these things.
My ex was sentenced for IIOC. But the Police absolutely believed that once it went in the press etc, someone would come forward accusing him of a contact offence. In his case, this didn't happen.
I'm terrified of the press reporting these crimes but I also understand that the Police want To get these crimes out there in case a contact/communication offence has taken place .
I sincerely hope that in your case it isn't true, like my persons case wasn't. I guess what I'm saying is that they might not be discussing images, but something more. But obviously, I don't know. I truly wish you all the very best and would encourage you to use the LF helpline if need be. X
Oh Lost, I've nothing helpful to add other than to say that it must be unbelievably stressful for you.
I really hope it's nothing/a misunderstanding.
Whatever happens, we'll be here for you.
Easier said than done, but try not to focus on other things as best you can x x
I really hope it's nothing/a misunderstanding.
Whatever happens, we'll be here for you.
Easier said than done, but try not to focus on other things as best you can x x
Thank you xx
We think it's a previous girlfriend!
Previous for a very good reason! She was abusive when drinking! Physically assaulted my son on a number of nights out and continued to contact him when he ended their relationship.
Im destroyed!
The police expressed their awareness that it was only reported after his case recently was published.
And they have left speaking with him until the 22 April!!!
xx
We think it's a previous girlfriend!
Previous for a very good reason! She was abusive when drinking! Physically assaulted my son on a number of nights out and continued to contact him when he ended their relationship.
Im destroyed!
The police expressed their awareness that it was only reported after his case recently was published.
And they have left speaking with him until the 22 April!!!
xx
Gosh that's a long time to have it hanging over you both
Sounds like you haven't even had chance to catch your breath from sentencing.
Is there anything you can do to make the next week or so a bit easier?
Sounds like you haven't even had chance to catch your breath from sentencing.
Is there anything you can do to make the next week or so a bit easier?
We will do as we always do and simply pull together.
Since as long as I can remember, this is all my life has become. Leaving my own abusive relationship behind and raising my children alone. I refused support then and more recently since my sons arrest in 2022. I'm trying to not think but I don't know how many more times I can experience such distress and not break. My fragility is becoming visible and it scares me.
xx
Since as long as I can remember, this is all my life has become. Leaving my own abusive relationship behind and raising my children alone. I refused support then and more recently since my sons arrest in 2022. I'm trying to not think but I don't know how many more times I can experience such distress and not break. My fragility is becoming visible and it scares me.
xx
Will you reach out for support this time? Your GP maybe? The helpline?
Therapist or a friend you can trust? You're only human. I often wonder what the limit is. I sometimes worry I've reached it but somehow I keep going..it's not pretty, I'm on my knees a lot but still going.
Therapist or a friend you can trust? You're only human. I often wonder what the limit is. I sometimes worry I've reached it but somehow I keep going..it's not pretty, I'm on my knees a lot but still going.
It sounds like someone with a grudge is being vindictive. Why are they leaving it so long to speak to him it is all so cruel yet again.
It is cruel.
Just hang in there! X x
Just hang in there! X x
No one is available apparently to speak to my son until the 22 April despite it also being reported 2 weeks ago.
The police have any phone records from the first time they went out together, the phone was part of the destruction order. And if they want this phone from the second time they went out, well I guess as per an order related to the IIOC (SHPO) they may be able to say they are entitled to it.
Irritation at the whole situation.
Records of conversations we have show the distress and person she was. But we are in the hands of the police again!
The police have any phone records from the first time they went out together, the phone was part of the destruction order. And if they want this phone from the second time they went out, well I guess as per an order related to the IIOC (SHPO) they may be able to say they are entitled to it.
Irritation at the whole situation.
Records of conversations we have show the distress and person she was. But we are in the hands of the police again!