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My two older children I have with my ex. He has always been aware of my partners conviction from the day he got arrested and always trusted my judgment. Allowed my partner to see the children my partner moved in he knew everything all throughout every bail date, court dates when he pleaded guilty the lot. Him and my partner although they've never been friends they've always been civil and said hello when they see eachother. My partner had to move out again because of social services and he hasn't seen my older children since October. The whole time my ex has been telling me 'just let him see them it's what they want' I haven't because I'm not an idiot. Now things are moving forward, social services have said he is allowed contact my ex has decided he no longer wants him to have any contact with the children. My children miss him terribly and he knows this. My ex drinks alot and I'm pretty sure he is using drugs again (but I csnt be sure) obviously my partner and children want to see eachother I want them to see eacjothr social services have agreed it but because my ex is saying no social services have said that it can't. Now my ex is threatening with court and things. Does anyone have any advice at all? As I said this has been going kn now just over 2 years and my ex has been aware of everything and only the last month has changed his mind. Do I have any rights to just say tough or do I have to just play his game?
If your ex has parental responsibility then you can't really go against his wishes for the children not to have contact. Have you had any risk assessments done to establish what risk your partner poses to your children that aren't his? If you do then this is what the courts will take into account and will form part of the decisions they make.
You could ask a family law solicitor for a free consultation to ask your questions and see what they recommend xxx
You could ask a family law solicitor for a free consultation to ask your questions and see what they recommend xxx
We're in the process of all of that being done now. He does have parental responsibility, I just didn't know whether it would be different because he's saying one thing to me and another to social services and I do have proof of this. As well as the fact my partner has been around the children since and he's not had an issue it's only this last month he seems to have changed his tune and I'm not sure why every time I try and talk to him about it I never get a straight answer.
What concerns has he raised with ss? Has he said to them that he's willing to support contact if these concerns are addressed by a risk assessment? xxx
Contact is a right of a child, it is not right of a parent. If your children wish to have contact with your partner and if it is assessed to be safe, and you are protective, they can have contact and your partner can either accept this or ask the court to let him care for them full time, which I doubt he does.
His 'concerns' if yoj can class them as that have been that 'he's brainwashing me' and 'I'm so desperate to be loved ill just deal with it' nothing to do with the children and couldn't be any further from the school. The teacher at my children's school who is involved and helping has said that he's only starting to make things difficult now becUse she believes that he could still be in love with me and has convinced himself if my partner was out the way then we could get back together. When that couldn't be further from the truth. I can't stand that man. Although my eldest has just informed me his dad has been talking alot about moving house, to a completely different county and has told the children he will take them and they can come home to me on weekends. So he could even be making things difficult now in the hopes I allow that too happen?
Do you kmow at what age it is the children's wishes get taken into consideration?
Do you kmow at what age it is the children's wishes get taken into consideration?
In custody cases the wishes of the children are considered to an extent at any age they can express it but they are not legally allowed to decide who to live with until they are 16 xxx
Does anyone know if the courts would take my partners conviction into consideration, even with all of the work we have both doing doing with courses amd things?