First unannounced visit
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Every time my mind is settling a little, the next thing hits. I was on my own and there was a knck on the door. That alone sends me over the edge!!
fibding to men asking for my OH then whispering that they are police, was enough for me to nearly break down. The had to ring him to come home, he was only a few min away at his mother's.
the visit was fine, but my mental state is getting worse again. I will buy a video doorbell. I try not to open the door at all if I can help it.
These visits will happen for another 6 years. Sigh
fibding to men asking for my OH then whispering that they are police, was enough for me to nearly break down. The had to ring him to come home, he was only a few min away at his mother's.
the visit was fine, but my mental state is getting worse again. I will buy a video doorbell. I try not to open the door at all if I can help it.
These visits will happen for another 6 years. Sigh
In the beginning, I woke up at 6am to an imaginary knock, for about 8 weeks, after the initial one. I despised having to let professionals into my house, and losing a degree of privacy at first, but I've been doing it for two years now. It's a badge or a work ID, doesn't matter, I just invite them in and offer a cup of tea, not one person took that offer yet. Everyone is doing their job, and absolutely no one is out to punish you, or your decisions to stand by, although at times it can feel that way. I hope your anxiety settles with time like mine did. Video doorbell has pros and cons. Hugs.
In this situation does anyone know if you have an unannounced visit but the OH is in work what then... does he have to leave and come home surely he has a duty to carry out his employment as well and can't just leave mid shift.
what if your on a family day out in the middle of the day do you still have to come home. I also have another 6 years of this crap and it causes me so much anxiety the thought of somebody just turning up in announced walking into my home.
what if your on a family day out in the middle of the day do you still have to come home. I also have another 6 years of this crap and it causes me so much anxiety the thought of somebody just turning up in announced walking into my home.
You can refuse them entry twice and then they have to get a warrant the third time. But if the person is not there, they usually just go away and come back another time.
Once they know the person is at work then they should time their next visit to fit in with that. There should be no need for the person to come home.
Once they know the person is at work then they should time their next visit to fit in with that. There should be no need for the person to come home.
Ours have also been very professional and I know my person felt more supported by the team, thankfully the police visits have been more consistent in this regard (social work varied hugely between councils). They text (or phoned) person when he wasn't home, but he replied that he was at his sw meeting. They were fine and came back later, they've just requested he keeps them informed if he is going somewhere just in case they were wanting to visit.
We're now over 18 months into the process and don't really think about the visits any more. If they turn up at the house and my son is at work they leave and then make contact with him to ask what his working hours will be for the following week.