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I'm so sorry. You are being treated unfairly. They think they're safe. They think it will never happen to them. They think they know exactly what their family members do online etc. They think they'd know exactly what they'd do in our situation. They do not. X

I try and not let people have the power over me to take away my happiness. What I mean is, is this person a friend? A real friend? Would a real friend do this? Since I have been on this journey I lost my best friend. While speaking to a coucillor she questioned if this person was ever my friend. To leave some one when they need you the most is not a friend. I have people who i would call a friend but they cancel on me and constantly disappoint me. So i decided to remove their power. I know this sounds weird but it is hard to explain. I just say to myself i no longer will allow this person to have a power over me. I then stop trying to make arrangements with them, that way they cannot cancel on me. We text and laugh at things on facebook, but it is a much more light touch friendship. Perhaps your friend does not know what to say to you, or is having difficulty dealing with the situation. This situation affects people in different ways, and i have long learnt that people have their own issues and it is not about me at all.

Sorry i am not sure if i have made any sense, what is am trying to say, it could be them and their issues and not you. Dont give them the power to upset you. That being said it is easier said than done especially when it involves our children. I hope you'friend' realises what she is doing and stops her bad behaviour. Xx



I hope you are ok.

I'm going to be really blunt. Anyone who treats a NINE YEAR OLD differently because of something their parent did isn't worth having as a friend and is also frankly a bit.....weird???? I have a 10yo and a 13yo and have a circle of friends (mostly with kids) who all know and no one has treated mine any differently. If they did they would be no loss.

The only thing to be said in her 'justification' is that brand new mothers (if she is one) can get very over-anxious about their Precious First Baby in ways that they'll look back on as totally irrational a year down the road. There's also PND, which can trigger irrational responses. So she may have things going on.

Bondi, perhaps by distancing yourself, your friend will realise what she has lost and will approach you with a different attitude. Unless you want it, it does not have to be final in losing her as a friend.