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LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

656 posts

Some one in my road has recognised my ex, looked him up and asked the Police for information. IM PETRIFIED AND I CANNOT COPE.

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 6:52pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1166 posts

Hi,

the police cannot release information just on the basis of someone thinks they know already. To do a request via Sarah's law which is what would have to be done then your ex would need to be in regular unsupervised contact with a child in their care. How did you find out that someone has recognised him? xxx

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 7:04pmReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

656 posts

His VISOR manager emailed me that someone from my road has called them asking if he has any restrictions because there's loads of families here with young children. Which is true. He's not allowed any unsupervised (pre authorised and arranged) with any under 18's, which he absolutely hasn't had. I suspect someone in my block of flats has worked it out somehow which has always been my biggest fear. There's also the issue of a FB group for my road so if they post the 8 year old articles about him in there, I dread to think... I in floods of tears and I'm so very scared, and I don't know how to tell my poor Autistic son. I daren't even go and get my bin from the communal bin store. I won't be able to leave my flat ever again for any reason.

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 7:32pmReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

656 posts

Should I contact my housing association and tell them. Because I'm sure someone else will. Last time I was threatened with eviction.

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 7:37pmReport post

Starr

Member since
December 2024

120 posts

Oh Robin I'm so sorry.

Is there anyone you can trust to call and chat with tonight?

Does your ex live elsewhere or with you? Sorry, I can't remember if he lives with you or just visits.

If he doesn't live with you, is there anything in your tenancy agreement about visitors? Sorry, I have no idea on this kind of stuff. Do you have a law centre or CAB locally you could contact for advice on the housing part?

Regarding the people knowing, could you perhaps ask for explicit confirmation of what has been shared and with whom? Not a name obviously but is it a neighbour etc so you know a bit more about what you're dealing with.

Hopefully any nosiness dies down quickly. What can you do to help you to feel even a tiny little bit calmer tonight?

Longer term, is requesting a move an option for you? A bit of a fresh start? I appreciate this isn't always possible.

Thinking of you x

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 8:35pmReport post

FromTheAshes

Member since
January 2025

39 posts

Oh Robin,

I hope you manage to find some calm. This is awful.

Sending support and light.

Xx

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 9:13pmReport post

Skysie98

Member since
May 2024

38 posts

Hi Robin,

I am so sorry to hear this.

My partners offence from 10 years ago was in the media luckily 2nd one 6 years ago wasn't. However like you people recognise him.



I cam understand the fear. I rarely go out where I live as we have been harassed and followed and had reports been given to the police for him being with me and his daughter (no restrictions currently other than can't live with us and no personal care but that's social not his SHOPO etc) it's so scarry and awful.

We are on a council list to move for mine and our daughters saftey and wellbeing.

I really feel for you and sending you so much love your way.

If you feel it's best to let your housing association know just in case it causes a problem again I would.

I understand why people have an issue with the offences but also wish they would learn to leave us the families alone!

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 9:58pmReport post

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

516 posts

LittleRobin3 how are you? Is there anyone you can ring to help you?

Posted Mon April 14, 2025 11:56pmReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

656 posts

I don't have anyone. He doesn't live with my son and I but he visits and he lives in the same town.

Posted Tue April 15, 2025 8:51amReport post

Poppet

Member since
February 2025

100 posts

Thinking of you LittleRobin. How are things? X

Posted Wed April 16, 2025 10:33amReport post

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

656 posts

I'm still terrified. I can't see myself ever being able to go outside. I'm sick of it. I've lived with this for 8+ years and I've had enough. I really wish I'd walked away all those years ago. I did try to get away. I moved abroad with my 2 youngest children in an attempt to get away from the misery a year after the first knock but we had to come back. I hate the thought that there's someone here watching our every move. People don't understand the processes etc, the SHPO he's under etc. They become hysterical and become a huge part of the problem. I wish I could move away.

Posted Wed April 16, 2025 11:02amReport post

Quick exit