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Knock 31st July
Person: 16yr old son
All we know: IP address linked to my son's email
Initially my son was on bail for 6 months but just after Xmas that changed to RUI
Apparently his devices which was an old tablet, xbox and iPhone were due to be checked 28th March. We are still awaiting update.
My son states he doesn't know what this relates to and we believe him due to type of child he is and we can always tell when he's telling truth. If anything we believe he's come across something unintentionally. Another reason is we have emails where he's reported items to snapchat. One of these was accepted to be a violation and he told us it was iioc. We also have thing where his email was hacked and random messages coming through. His new email is very similar and I hadn't realised he'd used same password.
My son is intelligent but nieve.
Even now it breaks my heart fact on the day of arrest he was placed in a cell and reading guidelines that should not have happened. The negative impact on his mental health and his A levels is huge. Just need this over.
I have started regularly contacting OIC for updates. They won't say what links my son exactly but reading between the lines it is Snapchat.
This forum as been very supportive. I hope more families will use this particular forum that is specific to children x
Person: 16yr old son
All we know: IP address linked to my son's email
Initially my son was on bail for 6 months but just after Xmas that changed to RUI
Apparently his devices which was an old tablet, xbox and iPhone were due to be checked 28th March. We are still awaiting update.
My son states he doesn't know what this relates to and we believe him due to type of child he is and we can always tell when he's telling truth. If anything we believe he's come across something unintentionally. Another reason is we have emails where he's reported items to snapchat. One of these was accepted to be a violation and he told us it was iioc. We also have thing where his email was hacked and random messages coming through. His new email is very similar and I hadn't realised he'd used same password.
My son is intelligent but nieve.
Even now it breaks my heart fact on the day of arrest he was placed in a cell and reading guidelines that should not have happened. The negative impact on his mental health and his A levels is huge. Just need this over.
I have started regularly contacting OIC for updates. They won't say what links my son exactly but reading between the lines it is Snapchat.
This forum as been very supportive. I hope more families will use this particular forum that is specific to children x
Hello Ajustcopingparent
Thank you for starting the ball rolling on this new category. I remember how awful the long waiting in limbo was, so I hope you hear soon as to what the next stage maybe.
The young person in our family received 'the knock' nearly five years ago now ( he was 16 at the time, like your son) and it took just over a year before he went to Youth Court in June 21.
I do feel these long waits are really unacceptable as it really has an impact of the young person's mental wellbeing.
I agree with you that it is really positive that this new category exists, a dedicated space for sharing of experiences and knowledge to help and support each other and to support our young family members through this journey.
I am thinking of you and your son.
Thank you for starting the ball rolling on this new category. I remember how awful the long waiting in limbo was, so I hope you hear soon as to what the next stage maybe.
The young person in our family received 'the knock' nearly five years ago now ( he was 16 at the time, like your son) and it took just over a year before he went to Youth Court in June 21.
I do feel these long waits are really unacceptable as it really has an impact of the young person's mental wellbeing.
I agree with you that it is really positive that this new category exists, a dedicated space for sharing of experiences and knowledge to help and support each other and to support our young family members through this journey.
I am thinking of you and your son.
Thank you Alison20
I agree the system needs reviewing and changes made. But problem is people are too scared to speak up because of the stigma behind it all.
I agree the system needs reviewing and changes made. But problem is people are too scared to speak up because of the stigma behind it all.
Hello everyone!
Joined this service around month ago.
Reading all your stories from you all incredible and loving moms. Make my heart bleed and angry with disgust of system.
We all know internet is a dangerous place. Expecially for young people. They say they have systems in place. Though look at stress, aligations and turmoil we and our kids have to face?
Yes, they ll still use shapchat, tick tock , etch. It is part of being teen today unfortunately. My question here is why there is not safety issues enough in place for those big companies to keep Chidren Safe?
The same way there is keeping children Safe in Education. There should be Keeping children safe safe in Internet. Not just stranger danger Primary. What about Secondary School, there is even more exposure to content then?
We as mums should speak our truth. And make the change happen. They have to bring some new protocol in place. Enough is enough.
Why should good kids and parent suffer like this.?
And I totally agree with the long wait, is encrutiating. The not knowing. You can go mental with the waiting game.
We have waited for 8 month now to be called in for voluntary interview. My son was 16 at time it happened. The same IP address tracked, somr founding there. We have interview next week .
We have good solicitor, very experienced.
Of course I try to slap on brave face for my Son. Even though everything inside of me is breaking. I worry even more now.
My whole summer had been overshadowed by this nightmare. So much good staff unfolding for both of us. And then this crazy thing happened.
MYy questions is where is the Justice??? When caring, loving, intelligent parents and kids have to go through this type of horror.
When those why actually do wrong walk around like nothing could touch them.
Sorry, about the long rant. But I needed to went. I feel discussed by the whole process and authorities.
There has to be massive changes done.
Both in Internet World and Authorities.
Till that is not approached properly, unfortunately things like this ll keep happening.
So how do you fix it.
Joined this service around month ago.
Reading all your stories from you all incredible and loving moms. Make my heart bleed and angry with disgust of system.
We all know internet is a dangerous place. Expecially for young people. They say they have systems in place. Though look at stress, aligations and turmoil we and our kids have to face?
Yes, they ll still use shapchat, tick tock , etch. It is part of being teen today unfortunately. My question here is why there is not safety issues enough in place for those big companies to keep Chidren Safe?
The same way there is keeping children Safe in Education. There should be Keeping children safe safe in Internet. Not just stranger danger Primary. What about Secondary School, there is even more exposure to content then?
We as mums should speak our truth. And make the change happen. They have to bring some new protocol in place. Enough is enough.
Why should good kids and parent suffer like this.?
And I totally agree with the long wait, is encrutiating. The not knowing. You can go mental with the waiting game.
We have waited for 8 month now to be called in for voluntary interview. My son was 16 at time it happened. The same IP address tracked, somr founding there. We have interview next week .
We have good solicitor, very experienced.
Of course I try to slap on brave face for my Son. Even though everything inside of me is breaking. I worry even more now.
My whole summer had been overshadowed by this nightmare. So much good staff unfolding for both of us. And then this crazy thing happened.
MYy questions is where is the Justice??? When caring, loving, intelligent parents and kids have to go through this type of horror.
When those why actually do wrong walk around like nothing could touch them.
Sorry, about the long rant. But I needed to went. I feel discussed by the whole process and authorities.
There has to be massive changes done.
Both in Internet World and Authorities.
Till that is not approached properly, unfortunately things like this ll keep happening.
So how do you fix it.
It needs exposing by a clever journalist, like the post office scandal was.
