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Torn between my head and my heart

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I know at the end of the day, I have to make the decision and nobody can make it for me.

I just wondered if anyone else had been in this similar situation.......after the knock, I did leave OH. But then around 8 months later I came back to him. This did not go down well with my family and friends, especially after experiencing a second knock a few months after returning!!!

Fast forward 2 years and OH is currently in prison. We are still in contact now and again, but I don't know how I feel about the future when he is released.

I have so many emotions and even though I do still love him, I have told him I do not trust him.

He seems to say all the right things, "I'm sorry, I won't do it again, I don't want to ever come back to prison, I love you " bla, bla, bla......you get the idea lol

But.........this is where I battle with head and heart.

Has anyone ever left OH and gone back to them, to then experience the knock again and did you stay together, or if they went to prison, did you end it for good?

Posted Tue April 22, 2025 9:36amReport post

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Little Robin, thank you.

Sorry to hear what your ex put you through.

I've already told my OH I don't trust him (and I don't know if/when I ever will). I've always believed that if there is no trust in a relationship, then there is no relationship. So I feel like I'm telling myself to let go.

But then I contradict myself, saying I still love him.......I've had that many arguments with myself lol

We went through 2 knocks, exactly 12 months apart. I left him, then like an idiot I went back.

Because of that decision, I have now lost my adult son, the rest of my family and friends.

I wish I didn't love him, everything would be so much easier lol.

I'm mid 50s and I don't think I'd ever trust another man, so I very much doubt I will have another relationship (but I'm not thinking of staying with OH just for that reason). Prior to us meeting, I had been on my own (by choice) for 20 years! lol

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LittleRobin, I have replied to you x

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LittleRobin, I have replied to you x

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LittleRobin, I have replied to you x

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Posted Tue April 22, 2025 7:45pm
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Little Robin,

Sorry about the amount of times my messages say I have replied!

It was showing on my screen that it was not sending, hence I kept resending lol x

Posted Tue April 22, 2025 7:47pmReport post

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