Torn between my head and my heart
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I know at the end of the day, I have to make the decision and nobody can make it for me.
I just wondered if anyone else had been in this similar situation.......after the knock, I did leave OH. But then around 8 months later I came back to him. This did not go down well with my family and friends, especially after experiencing a second knock a few months after returning!!!
Fast forward 2 years and OH is currently in prison. We are still in contact now and again, but I don't know how I feel about the future when he is released.
I have so many emotions and even though I do still love him, I have told him I do not trust him.
He seems to say all the right things, "I'm sorry, I won't do it again, I don't want to ever come back to prison, I love you " bla, bla, bla......you get the idea lol
But.........this is where I battle with head and heart.
Has anyone ever left OH and gone back to them, to then experience the knock again and did you stay together, or if they went to prison, did you end it for good?
I just wondered if anyone else had been in this similar situation.......after the knock, I did leave OH. But then around 8 months later I came back to him. This did not go down well with my family and friends, especially after experiencing a second knock a few months after returning!!!
Fast forward 2 years and OH is currently in prison. We are still in contact now and again, but I don't know how I feel about the future when he is released.
I have so many emotions and even though I do still love him, I have told him I do not trust him.
He seems to say all the right things, "I'm sorry, I won't do it again, I don't want to ever come back to prison, I love you " bla, bla, bla......you get the idea lol
But.........this is where I battle with head and heart.
Has anyone ever left OH and gone back to them, to then experience the knock again and did you stay together, or if they went to prison, did you end it for good?
I divorced my husband of 17 years, 4 children fairly soon after the knock but we decided to support him. I believed he would never, ever put us through this again (he went to prison, first offence), but he did. He's due sentencing tomorrow and it has completely and utterly wrecked our lives. I don't believe a word he says. I really regret not walking away the first time. The trouble with spending more time on someone who has lied and lied to you is it prevents other opportunities coming your way because you're focused on that person that's caused so much heartache. What if there was someone just around the corner in the future that would be a wonderful relationship for you but you miss out because you're spending your time on your person? Just a thought. Sending hugs. X
Little Robin, thank you.
Sorry to hear what your ex put you through.
I've already told my OH I don't trust him (and I don't know if/when I ever will). I've always believed that if there is no trust in a relationship, then there is no relationship. So I feel like I'm telling myself to let go.
But then I contradict myself, saying I still love him.......I've had that many arguments with myself lol
We went through 2 knocks, exactly 12 months apart. I left him, then like an idiot I went back.
Because of that decision, I have now lost my adult son, the rest of my family and friends.
I wish I didn't love him, everything would be so much easier lol.
I'm mid 50s and I don't think I'd ever trust another man, so I very much doubt I will have another relationship (but I'm not thinking of staying with OH just for that reason). Prior to us meeting, I had been on my own (by choice) for 20 years! lol
Sorry to hear what your ex put you through.
I've already told my OH I don't trust him (and I don't know if/when I ever will). I've always believed that if there is no trust in a relationship, then there is no relationship. So I feel like I'm telling myself to let go.
But then I contradict myself, saying I still love him.......I've had that many arguments with myself lol
We went through 2 knocks, exactly 12 months apart. I left him, then like an idiot I went back.
Because of that decision, I have now lost my adult son, the rest of my family and friends.
I wish I didn't love him, everything would be so much easier lol.
I'm mid 50s and I don't think I'd ever trust another man, so I very much doubt I will have another relationship (but I'm not thinking of staying with OH just for that reason). Prior to us meeting, I had been on my own (by choice) for 20 years! lol
I'll message you. X
LittleRobin, I have replied to you x
LittleRobin, I have replied to you x
LittleRobin, I have replied to you x
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Little Robin,
Sorry about the amount of times my messages say I have replied!
It was showing on my screen that it was not sending, hence I kept resending lol x
Sorry about the amount of times my messages say I have replied!
It was showing on my screen that it was not sending, hence I kept resending lol x