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My OH is half is currently in custody and I am still trying to decide if I want to give us another chance upon release.
I'm aware that the police can/will rock up to do their checks, but someone has told me that other things will happen and I wondered if anyone had experienced these:
1. The police/probation have to approve the address of where OH will live upon release. So if he came to live with me, what are they checking? We don't have any children.
2. If neighbours have children, the police will tell them that their new neighbour is not allowed to have contact with anyone under the age of 18? Well to me that is basically telling the neighbours that they have a SO living next door :-(
3. Police/Probation have to approve where OH gets a job. Then there is a chance that they could inform the employer about OH (even if no questions asked at interview etc about any convictions).
Is there anything else I would need to prepare for? I'm torn at the moment between head and heart, whether to give him another chance.
I'm aware that the police can/will rock up to do their checks, but someone has told me that other things will happen and I wondered if anyone had experienced these:
1. The police/probation have to approve the address of where OH will live upon release. So if he came to live with me, what are they checking? We don't have any children.
2. If neighbours have children, the police will tell them that their new neighbour is not allowed to have contact with anyone under the age of 18? Well to me that is basically telling the neighbours that they have a SO living next door :-(
3. Police/Probation have to approve where OH gets a job. Then there is a chance that they could inform the employer about OH (even if no questions asked at interview etc about any convictions).
Is there anything else I would need to prepare for? I'm torn at the moment between head and heart, whether to give him another chance.
The police usually check to see if he is living near a school or somewhere where children congregate. That might be an issue.
They do not usually inform the neighbours about someones convictions, unless there is a specific risk that they have identified.
They might disclose to an employer, if the job involved working with the public, although it depends on what they think his risk level is.
They do not usually inform the neighbours about someones convictions, unless there is a specific risk that they have identified.
They might disclose to an employer, if the job involved working with the public, although it depends on what they think his risk level is.
Edel2020, thank you for replying.
I'm still so torn as to whether or not to give us another chance, or just call it quits .
I'm still so torn as to whether or not to give us another chance, or just call it quits .
Hi, My son received a suspended sentence with 10 years SHPO and 10 years SOR and our experience has been;
1. Police/probation have never expressed an issue with where he lives despite it being in the same road as a school.
2. Our neighbours have children, but police have never spoken to them to tell them my son is not allowed to have contact with anyone under the age of 18?
Our neighbours are aware of my sons conviction thanks to the local media but listened to us when we told them the true version of his story and have never caused any problems.
3. My son lost his job when the media reported his story immediately after his plea hearing. He now works in a zero hours job. He informed the Police/Probation of his new job to let them know where he was working and as long as he's not working unsupervised with under 18's the police have no reason to inform his employer. His employer and colleagues remain unaware of his conviction. He did inform them in his interview that he had a conviction but they asked no further question and nothing has ever been asked since.
My son has ongoing open communication with Police/Probation. He keeps them up to date with what he's planning to do for example, joining a gym, going away for a few days, looking at moving to a different property etc. If they did have a concern in what he was planning they would let him know so he coukd rethink his plans.
1. Police/probation have never expressed an issue with where he lives despite it being in the same road as a school.
2. Our neighbours have children, but police have never spoken to them to tell them my son is not allowed to have contact with anyone under the age of 18?
Our neighbours are aware of my sons conviction thanks to the local media but listened to us when we told them the true version of his story and have never caused any problems.
3. My son lost his job when the media reported his story immediately after his plea hearing. He now works in a zero hours job. He informed the Police/Probation of his new job to let them know where he was working and as long as he's not working unsupervised with under 18's the police have no reason to inform his employer. His employer and colleagues remain unaware of his conviction. He did inform them in his interview that he had a conviction but they asked no further question and nothing has ever been asked since.
My son has ongoing open communication with Police/Probation. He keeps them up to date with what he's planning to do for example, joining a gym, going away for a few days, looking at moving to a different property etc. If they did have a concern in what he was planning they would let him know so he coukd rethink his plans.
Thank you Ocean.
The information I was given by an ex probation officer was that:
probabtion/police have to approve accommodation.......I already guessed that would be not by a school etc. If neighbours have children under 18 police will speak to them. They have to approve any job he gets (and MAY) inform employer of his conviction.......I thought that was a bit unfair.
Probabtion in prison have told him he might have to go into temporary accommodation for a few weeks, regardless of whether we are together or not. He told me he asked why and she said "because that's how it is".
His SOR and SHPO are indefinite so I'm guessing he will never be free from the police. Am I right in thinking that probation are only involved for the remainder of the sentence upon release?
Hope things are going ok with your son x
The information I was given by an ex probation officer was that:
probabtion/police have to approve accommodation.......I already guessed that would be not by a school etc. If neighbours have children under 18 police will speak to them. They have to approve any job he gets (and MAY) inform employer of his conviction.......I thought that was a bit unfair.
Probabtion in prison have told him he might have to go into temporary accommodation for a few weeks, regardless of whether we are together or not. He told me he asked why and she said "because that's how it is".
His SOR and SHPO are indefinite so I'm guessing he will never be free from the police. Am I right in thinking that probation are only involved for the remainder of the sentence upon release?
Hope things are going ok with your son x