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Morning all,
Its 4 weeks tomorrow since we went in the press. It's been a complete emotional and physical whirlwind.
We've dealt with my OHs homelessness and managed to secure a private rental. Found out this week he's definitely losing his job, so now focusing on applying for work and contacting temp agencies. The disclosing issue hanging over us, but he only has internet restrictions in his court order, so hope that goes in his favour. Not that he's looking to work with under 18s obviously.
Community service has been a joke ....driving around and killing time for hours on end with about 2 hours max a day actual work. Then his supervisor pulled him aside recently to say some of the men had found out about his offence, it's supposed to be confidential but they're using their proper (and full names at times) so they had to pull him off quickly and are deciding how best to move forward.
SS have started my parenting assessment, which is actually going really well. There's nothing to find and I've gone over and above in educating myself and managing risk, so hoping for more leniency in the time we get to spend together come June time ...but we'll see!
As for family, friends and the community in general I sense it will be a long road! I don't have the mental capacity to deal with so much of it right now, so not putting myself under pressure. But it is weighing me down. On the plus side, apart from the first week after, I'm out and about, walking with my head held high because I know the real truth.
The main thing in all of this...My 2 boys are safe, happy and well. Currently no fall out for them, no one has said anything to them and for them (thankfully) life goes on as normal. Long may that continue.
I love my home but I am starting to think that a move in to somewehere a little more anonymous might be a good fest start, but not rushing in to anything for now.
Had some amazing support - but that's definitely feeling like the minority - I guess until I can get round everyone and have the same conversation - that will likely stay the same. But me and my OH are stronger together than ever and are clearly focusing on our long term future and our love for each other ....we're incredibly happy together and that is why I've fought all the way through and will continue to fight whilst I have the breath in my body.
As I said to the SW this week ...we're absolutely fine and just want to move forward ....it's not us that's the problem, it's everyone else!!!
Xxx
Its 4 weeks tomorrow since we went in the press. It's been a complete emotional and physical whirlwind.
We've dealt with my OHs homelessness and managed to secure a private rental. Found out this week he's definitely losing his job, so now focusing on applying for work and contacting temp agencies. The disclosing issue hanging over us, but he only has internet restrictions in his court order, so hope that goes in his favour. Not that he's looking to work with under 18s obviously.
Community service has been a joke ....driving around and killing time for hours on end with about 2 hours max a day actual work. Then his supervisor pulled him aside recently to say some of the men had found out about his offence, it's supposed to be confidential but they're using their proper (and full names at times) so they had to pull him off quickly and are deciding how best to move forward.
SS have started my parenting assessment, which is actually going really well. There's nothing to find and I've gone over and above in educating myself and managing risk, so hoping for more leniency in the time we get to spend together come June time ...but we'll see!
As for family, friends and the community in general I sense it will be a long road! I don't have the mental capacity to deal with so much of it right now, so not putting myself under pressure. But it is weighing me down. On the plus side, apart from the first week after, I'm out and about, walking with my head held high because I know the real truth.
The main thing in all of this...My 2 boys are safe, happy and well. Currently no fall out for them, no one has said anything to them and for them (thankfully) life goes on as normal. Long may that continue.
I love my home but I am starting to think that a move in to somewehere a little more anonymous might be a good fest start, but not rushing in to anything for now.
Had some amazing support - but that's definitely feeling like the minority - I guess until I can get round everyone and have the same conversation - that will likely stay the same. But me and my OH are stronger together than ever and are clearly focusing on our long term future and our love for each other ....we're incredibly happy together and that is why I've fought all the way through and will continue to fight whilst I have the breath in my body.
As I said to the SW this week ...we're absolutely fine and just want to move forward ....it's not us that's the problem, it's everyone else!!!
Xxx
Glad to see so many positives when it came to community payback my oh went outwith our area to complete it, it was only a 25 minute drive but for his mental health this was better for him, again it was driving around minimum work being done