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Hi,
So we're 14 months down the line from the knock, today I had the phone call that they have had the report through from his device (15yr old son, 14yrs old at time of knock, 13ys old when he sent an image on Snapchat)
She asked how we all were, I explained that 1) I was at work, so couldn't really discuss much and 2) it's having a massive impact on us all.
She asked for a photo of him (from around that time period) and then told me should would get started on the report breakdown today, but that we wouldn't hear from her for a while as she's on 2 weeks annual leave..
My little bubble that iv built up this past 14months has burst... I'm now back to living in total fear.
I mean, who am I kidding? It's not like it wasn't constantly at the front of my mind..
Does anyone from the w.midlands area know how this will proceed?
So we're 14 months down the line from the knock, today I had the phone call that they have had the report through from his device (15yr old son, 14yrs old at time of knock, 13ys old when he sent an image on Snapchat)
She asked how we all were, I explained that 1) I was at work, so couldn't really discuss much and 2) it's having a massive impact on us all.
She asked for a photo of him (from around that time period) and then told me should would get started on the report breakdown today, but that we wouldn't hear from her for a while as she's on 2 weeks annual leave..
My little bubble that iv built up this past 14months has burst... I'm now back to living in total fear.
I mean, who am I kidding? It's not like it wasn't constantly at the front of my mind..
Does anyone from the w.midlands area know how this will proceed?
Hi Justdontknow
I am so sorry that you and your son have had to wait 14 months so far. This long period of time must have had such an impact on you all. I find it really hard to understand why the police leave a young person like your son in limbo for so long.
I do not live in the West Midlands but I felt the need to respond to your post. Once the OIC (officer in charge) has written up their report, they will probably ask your son in for a voluntary interview. As your son is under 18 years old a parent has to attend the interview with him (or an appropiate adult) and it is his best interest to have a solicitor as well.
After the voluntary interview you will have more idea as to whether the police are going to refer to the CPS for a decision to charge or not.
Thinking of you
I am so sorry that you and your son have had to wait 14 months so far. This long period of time must have had such an impact on you all. I find it really hard to understand why the police leave a young person like your son in limbo for so long.
I do not live in the West Midlands but I felt the need to respond to your post. Once the OIC (officer in charge) has written up their report, they will probably ask your son in for a voluntary interview. As your son is under 18 years old a parent has to attend the interview with him (or an appropiate adult) and it is his best interest to have a solicitor as well.
After the voluntary interview you will have more idea as to whether the police are going to refer to the CPS for a decision to charge or not.
Thinking of you
Hi,
I totally relate to this 'in the bubble' period, and wanting to move forward but not at the same time.
i am also in w.mids area, so wondering if we will also be a similar time period...our knock was June.
Has your son been interviewed yet? I can't remember...ours hasn't.
Thinking of you xx
I totally relate to this 'in the bubble' period, and wanting to move forward but not at the same time.
i am also in w.mids area, so wondering if we will also be a similar time period...our knock was June.
Has your son been interviewed yet? I can't remember...ours hasn't.
Thinking of you xx
Our knock was on 13 of March 24, he had a brief discussion at home..awaiting her to review the report before we know the next step, so no official interview.
Thank you everyone for your replies
Thank you everyone for your replies
Justdontknow same regarding interview.
Wonder why they want a picture of him...
Wonder why they want a picture of him...
We had our knock dec 24
call this week for us to go for voluntary interview In couple of days
literally im not sure what happens after that as she told me the investigation is still ongoing
my child doesn't remember what he did six months ago and got quite a few additional needs anyone else. Been in same situation please ?
call this week for us to go for voluntary interview In couple of days
literally im not sure what happens after that as she told me the investigation is still ongoing
my child doesn't remember what he did six months ago and got quite a few additional needs anyone else. Been in same situation please ?
Crushed,
On the first interview she seemed to be going down the 'he was being groomed' line, but..I don't trust them. Not just in these cases, but in most things they seem to know how to talk people around.. so you open up.
She said she needed the photos to 'rule him out'
We're very much in the dark, don't know what to expect...expecting the worst.
I'm in a very low mood and have been since the recent contact, I work in a high stress job in a management position, long, unsociable hours and I'm just drained.
No one at work knows about it, they all know my son and indeed my family, I just really don't want this getting out..I'm so ashamed, but I'm torn because I love him.
On the first interview she seemed to be going down the 'he was being groomed' line, but..I don't trust them. Not just in these cases, but in most things they seem to know how to talk people around.. so you open up.
She said she needed the photos to 'rule him out'
We're very much in the dark, don't know what to expect...expecting the worst.
I'm in a very low mood and have been since the recent contact, I work in a high stress job in a management position, long, unsociable hours and I'm just drained.
No one at work knows about it, they all know my son and indeed my family, I just really don't want this getting out..I'm so ashamed, but I'm torn because I love him.
I really feel for the mums on here. My person was my husband a grown man who should have known better. It seems so unfair that children and those with learning and social issues who do this (and are the same victims the laws are supposed to protect) are being handled so harshly and losing whole chunks of their childhood. How is that in their best interest? How is it protecting other children? Surely a stern talking to (arrest and interview) and immediate internet restrictions and fine (which would pay for rehab and education courses) would cut most of this off at source for the teens who get caught up in this and prevent re-offending. Not isolating them from their friends and family whilst they investigate and impact their futures before they've even started out in life. It's cruel. I do appreciate that the peers they're sharing with are victims and sharing these images is awful but it seems that there is no understanding of when it's young impressionable and curious kids and those who are dangerous and causing harm on purpose. It's just so sad that this is what our young generation are facing.
i heard a quote the other day that said the great thinkers and scientists of history would be amazed if we explained the internet to them; that we have all the information in the world to do good at our fingertips. But we mostly use it to watch videos of cats being scared of cucumbers and porn. What a waste. And they're right.
i heard a quote the other day that said the great thinkers and scientists of history would be amazed if we explained the internet to them; that we have all the information in the world to do good at our fingertips. But we mostly use it to watch videos of cats being scared of cucumbers and porn. What a waste. And they're right.
Heartisbreaking yes a lot of us in this situation, how old is your son? X
My sons just had a call to go in for interview. He's now 20, struggles socially. I'm worried sick about him. Over the past two weeks he's said every day his life is over and he's not worth anything. It's taken 16 months to get to this point. He's a good kid, never had any problems with him other than him struggling socially. He was at the best point he had ever been in his life when we had the knock. Now he's at his lowest ever. Totally worried I'm going to loose him completely, he and his sibling are my world.
Crushed he's 14
He's just said he's going to be honest as he can be to what he can remember
he lacks communication skills sadly and just took it too far
I'm so worried I keep over thinking it all , he knows he did wrong but was impulsive and wanted to be liked by the person that sent it to him
we were just settling down and now it rears its ugly head again we can't change what's happening but it's just scary and unknown
He's just said he's going to be honest as he can be to what he can remember
he lacks communication skills sadly and just took it too far
I'm so worried I keep over thinking it all , he knows he did wrong but was impulsive and wanted to be liked by the person that sent it to him
we were just settling down and now it rears its ugly head again we can't change what's happening but it's just scary and unknown
Heartisbreaking
We are going through the same. Suspected autism awaiting tests.
Not sure what the future holds after all this.
We are going through the same. Suspected autism awaiting tests.
Not sure what the future holds after all this.